Notice: Miscategorizing threads might result in removal of posting privileges. Stop wasting my time.

Most of the posts would be under rebooting and addiction right? I don't post new threads much tho

 

Well, try to be patient with people. They might be in too much of a hurry to get help with their addiction to read every instruction. Also a lot of people's brains don't work so well when they first sign up because they are impaired. Taking away people's posting priveleges would definitely alienate and hurt them a lot, limiting their potential for recovery in that time. Fear isn't a healthy way to control people, but I get that you're mad about it.

An alternative to a thread like this would be something like, "Hi, it's me, Alexander. Please help me keep the forum organized by taking the initiative to remind posters of what sections their posts belong in." This way you are delegating the responsibility. If you do this it will probably be more effective. for example, I will make sure to comment in threads that are out of section, hey, maybe this belongs in journals. Hey, maybe this belongs in off topic discussion or loneliness.

Other than that you might just want to let go of control. Otherwise you're going to be constantly fuming, and alienating people. Most threads are on-topic and some lines of whats on-topic and whats not might be blurred. New to nofap section is pretty organized but for example in here someone posted a topic about being with a woman during reboot. Well, that could be in dating during reboot, but it could also be more of just a reboot section thing depending how you look at it. Someone else posted a break up thread. Again it could be more in loneliness section but it could be in reboot too since increased emotional feelings of the break up relate to re-booting.

Micro managing isn't good for you and it's not good for anyone else. This is trait 1 of the Other Laundry List. "

1. To cover our fear of people and our dread of isolation we tragically become the very authority figures who frighten others and cause them to withdraw."

So you don't have to be that way. There are more emotionally sober ways to handle things than threatening everyone with alienation. It is even somewhat tyrannical and as a person running a recovery web-site you might not want to settle for that kind of tendency.

As a user of this site I would say that everything is working just fine. Most people are on-topic and when they're not, I have compassion for them for being new, brain fogged, etc. They might even have mental illness so you have to be really patient with people in recovery. I am making great use of the site and getting all the help I need here. In fact when a thread trickles in that might belong in another section it helps because maybe I wouldn't have checked that section, but it was what I need to hear. If you trust things to develop organically, you will have less stress.

Anyway I say all this realizing that you are mad and wanting to micro-manage and get things "under control" because I've had a lot of "management experience" and eventually I no longer needed to micro manage or control people especially via intimidation or threats, due to working my recovery process. So you are probably in a process of getting there too.

 

True. Best of luck to you Alexander! And I hope people start posting correctly

 

I think the growing issue of entitlement being on the rise with digital addictions and addicts of various types of media, pretty much sums this thread up in a nice little box and complete with bow...in a single sentence.

It makes having continuous compassion very difficult when everyone isn't patient and doesn't really care about the answers you have earned, they just want to hear what they want to hear, when they want to hear it.... Which is usually Right now.
People won't search for the obvious information that's already here, they would rather ask, slash, demand people answer them in their own threads and be disruptive, if they so feel.

I think it's appropriate at this point, to be blunt about it... From the staff.

People who sign up for NoFap should start reading the rules and following them appropriately.
When you go anywhere, you are expected to follow the place you are in appropriately for their code of conduct.
Just because this is anonymous doesn't excuse everyone of manners and decency of the byline of rules.
There really aren't that many here.

I don't think it's wrong to be respectful.
Especially here.
It is the base of what NoFap is trying to accomplish, after all.
Respect.

I hope you have a good day @Alexander

 

I'm sorry Mr @Alexander , some of us are non-English speakers, this makes us difficult to decide which thread we should choose for our writing because we don't understand much your description of each section.

 

That's great sir! I hope this website can be used in many language just like facebook and twitter.

 

I have noticed a little Eye on a post I’m following. I’m new to nofap so forgive me but I can’t find anywhere where it says what that means. Does it mean it’s being watch b/c it’s not appropriate?

 

Sorry Alexander I posted in wrong area wasn’t sure exactly.

 

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ThX for reminding it to everyone alexander...Actually its really very hard to control this website....Only a few men have to look at the whole part so I appreciate ur work....It might save many lives

 

It’s because most people don’t listen

 

What's the link to reset the counter? The one I was sent isn't functioning.

 

Click on menu tab on the top left corner....You will get it

 

Thanks but I did that and do not see any option regarding resetting the coup

 

Counter

 

Actually there is no reset button but u have to choose "update day counter" & set ur new time & date after last relapse....just click on menu & pull up the bar u will see update day counter....Hope u will get it this time