Now i know the reason behing my confidence problem. Time to kick its ass

I finally know why i have confidence problems around girls, i mostly described it as feeling of "i'm not good enough" and all of this came from my father. He never said to me things like "good job", "I'm proud of you" or something similiar. It always like "It was good but you could do better", "Why not [next best grade]", "next time put more effort in" and with this he gave me the feeling that i'm not good enough.
Even after i told him that lost 19 pounds there was no "good job" or something, even after i told him i'm 4 months into "no gaming" and that i put my ass back into the right direction.
Thats why i don't feel good enough around girls and look for approval from somewhere else.
I have found this shit out and know i want to kick the ass of this problem !

Has anybody experienced something familiar and can help me with that ?

 

You are right, thinking "It is all my parents fault" all the time and rinding this dead horse argument in my head will not do anything for me !
It is my time to approve myself, in my country we have a saying "Self approvel stinks" but self approval is important especially for me. Time to be proud of things !

Thanks buddy !

 

You could not say it better, i live for myself and not for anybody else !
The only importnant validation is my validation !

Thanks buddy for your help !