Obsessed by porn and masturbation. It seems, I can't stop.

You are totally in the right place! That sounds like the problem that I and, I would assume, so many others around here have had.

How can you solve it, though? Well, my first piece of advice would be to read as much of the website as possible. Read journals of people's experiences, read about the process of what happens to you when you start to abstain in order to understand what is going to happen to you, read about techniques that people have used. There is no point in me explaining it all here, because there is a hell of a lot. Then set yourself up with all of the tools you think you will need - Internet porn blockers, an accountability partner, a journal, trackers... whatever you feel is necessary to do what you need to do.

Then go it your best. It can be tough at first, and you might not succeed in giving up first time, but keep us all updated and I'm sure help and words of wisdom will come from others who have been there.

 

Look, I know those butt cheeks can be very tempting, but sometimes you just got to smack them and kiss them good bye.

 

I know the feeling. Your OP exactly describes my PMO cycle. I don't know how to fix it so much either. I'm trying to post here a lot to build some social identity as someone who fights this problem. It's super difficult, I know. I thing the best thing is to go outside, do something else, anything to get your mind off of it. The urge does subside.

 

You've got a long road ahead of you but it's great you're recognizing it's a problem. The time you are wasting doing this adds up. When you're looking forward to pmo it doesn't seem like a waste of time but the shame you feel after brings you back to reality. Porn addiction is shame based. The shame you feel causes urges to go up to cope with those sour feelings without you even realizing it.
First step is educating yourself and finding real help because we are powerless to fight the addiction by ourselves. Your addict self will say you are invincible, you can control it, but you can't. Understand what it really means to be an addict... It means not having any control over it.

 

I agree with what everyone is saying. I think the addiction does start with shame and then becomes a coping mechanism to deal with other negative things in your life. I've behaved in a similar manner to you many times. I believe a huge negative of this addiction is that it isolates you from others and then that isolation becomes a justification for acting out. My journey here is to find other ways with coping with whatever happens in life and just to be happy with whatever circumstances I am in on a day to day basis. The journey continues for me. I wish you the best of luck!

 

Yea i have a problem with edging too, everything surrounding my computer is basically a shrine for PMO, I've developed this very organized corner for PMO so after developing this intricate shrine corner and ritual that I've developed after 2+ yrs of of PMO in the corner which i call the c** stain corner, so its hard to JUST stop like some of the other guys on this site claim they do. My PMO ritual is so complex now that i can't just quickly O without being unsatisfied i have to know i have a least a minimum of 1hr to edge. Preferably all day- the most satisfaction i get is when i edge for about 2 hours watching P and then double O, then follow up session, then rest, eat, PMO back to back until its time to sleep. After so many hours of watching P i have been able to research the actors/performers/ and people, I've developed emotion feelings for these peoples, they kind of feel like my friends, when i see them i get more excitement than seeing people i actually know. In my head i just think about them on a first name basis, i follow them on twitter, have their emails, and even phone numbers of pornstars and have had conversations with them, thats how deep in the hole i am. HOWEVER as bad as my problem sounds! I was out of town for a week and i had no difficulty abstaining from FAPPING, i can't believe it, no withdraws. I think that removing oneself from the usual environment and shifting your activities, and life really restricters your life and your compulsion. Theres no way i can quit this addiction being at home in the same place. Having no job is my MAJOR factor as to why i FAPP so compulsively

 

Sounds like you need to destroy that corner.