I need some advice. I have a neighbor I have become fairly close friends with. He's going through a rough time. His wife has had some bad mental health issues for the last couple of years, and has moved back home with her mom. She's been wanting a divorce, just because she is stressed about everything, and they have been going back and forth a lot over it. I know it's really tough for him. I've been trying to be supportive and helpful, hanging out when possible and checking in with him. Well, I have some good news (kind of). His wife has agreed to reconcile, and he is going to move in with her at her mom's place. So, good for him, right? Well, I found out about something in a confidential manner from a third party - apparently he has a bad porn addiction, to the point that he is unable to do anything in bed (PIED in NoFap lingo). Some of the difficulty that she has been having is related to that. So, now I don't know that to do. Looking back, I should have guessed that might have been an issue for him. My first instinct is to send him a text, let him know that I heard something about it, and let him know that I too have struggled with PMO (although never PIED), and that I want to help him in any way I can, including getting him to go to recovery meetings with me. But I don't know how he would react. And I don't want to cause him any discomfort or embarrassment, fearing that it might cause him to cut ties and not talk to me anymore. Also, I would hate to have him tell anybody about my struggles - because the only people who know in real life are my wife, my religious leader, and my wife's sister and parents. Above all, I wouldn't want my wife to be embarrassed if he said anything, or if he told his wife and she said anything. Moreover I am hesitant to reveal the confidential third party that I heard about the problem from, lest I cause problems in that relationship as well. And I abhor gossip, so I am even hesitant to tell my wife. It is one thing to make online friendship and pour my heart out here, and yet another to go to recovery meetings and be vulnerable in a safe place among strangers - it's quite another to cross that boundary into the real world. What would you do?