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Ogling body parts?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by wildwood, Jul 3, 2015.

  1. wildwood

    wildwood Fapstronaut

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    Okay my boyfriend has just completed his 90 days and is doing great controlling his urges and chaser effects but still continues to ogle women. I'm not sure if maybe someone can give him advice on how to stop this annoying habit. An occasional fantasy will happen, I have been able to control my fantasizing and ogling any man since it's disrespectful to my boyfriend and the other person. Is there any advice anyone can give him? Any method? He was getting complacent and stopped writing his journal but has began again because he knew he was getting complacent. So any advice for him would be very much appreciated! Thank you!
     
  2. Icyweb

    Icyweb Fapstronaut

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    Picturing gross bugs does it for me. If I imagine a bunch of cockroaches running up my legs I have no interest in ogling girls or fantasizing. Cockroaches can only distract you so long though. It's all about directing your eyes somewhere else. It can be hard, but he controls what he looks at, and he needs to remember that. If you haven't already, explain to him that it bothers you when he looks at/fantasizes about women. He is basically cheating on you in his mind. If he was physically doing anything with these girls you wouldn't tolerate it, so don't tolerate it when he eye gropes them.
     
  3. IGY

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    The three second rule:- (1) Notice (2) acknowledge (3) move on.

    In order to move on means to no longer be looking at them or thinking about them.

    Trying to keep a blank mind will not work, though. He must fill his mind with something completely different.
     
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  4. Ryanellion

    Ryanellion Fapstronaut

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    @wildwood that's a tough one...I would say a rubber band, pull it everytime he starts to drift off...you can even do it to him when you see him staring LOL
     

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