Ogling

Ogling is a disrespectful, obsessive stare. It’s a double take, a sneaky glance, a conscious head to toe gawk, an objective looks rating ritual that may lead to a half-boner in public.

I’m lucky that I have never seen my boyfriend ogle anyone; but, hypothetically I would have a problem with it.

On the other hand, for a better understanding of ogling I think it’s important to point out what it is not:

Witnessing an “attractive” person cross your horizon and averting your eyes to respect your partner is not ogling. Noticing beauty in a non-sexual way is not ogling. For example, noticing features like clear skin or remarkable body quirks like a muscular physique, unique hair texture, cartoonishly huge lips, or smelling a fragrant smell is not ogling as long as you don’t smutify the experience.

There’s nothing inherently wrong for noticing symbols in the universe that are defined as beauty but the second you overlay the scene with porn fantasies is when you cross the line.