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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Liveoak, Mar 12, 2018.

  1. Liveoak

    Liveoak Fapstronaut

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    im in my late 60s married and have had this problem for most of my life. I want to free myself but since my wife doesnt seek sex very often I dont know how ill get by without occasional M. I am still about as horny as ever. Any suggestions
     
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  2. DainTrinity

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    It's not a question of not knowing. I believe you will kick this addiction, you will believe you will. No one needs porn in life, and this community can help you see that.

    Welcome to NoFap.
     
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  3. Liveoak

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    The feeling that you need M is a lie from the addiction itself. I'd recommend feeding a productive and/or enjoyable hobby. Something you take pride in.
     
  5. Full ahead

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    Hello, welcome here!

    We are somewhat alike....wife does not want sex at all (she teases a lot but when things go for real... besides making love as a favor is not my idea of marital sex, frankly). I love JO, honestly but my addiction has dragged me to many unwanted situations.

    One thing I say about this site is one can aim to different goals... maybe "monk" mode forgetting 100% of sex, or controlling the addiction, what is my personal goal. I want to quit porn 100% and keep M under control...I am not saying I will never ever touch my dick because that is not something I want, but keeping the "beast lashed" definitively is.

    As Dan here said hobbies keep our mind distracted and that is good, also not to stare at girls butts, or giving free reel line to sexual thoughts, those are good aids.

    Have a great day!
     
  6. determined_new_life

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    Welcome. Life gets better without porn and m. In a real tangible way. Certainly taking up a sport or something new and replacing p and m is one answer. Good luck
     
  7. Liveoak

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    It is so hard to keep your mind off it. Temptation everywhere. I thought when my neighbors wife stopped sending me porn and naked pics it would get easier. Today I went to a local beach. I successfully kept my mind off the young girls all around me. Then as we were walking out passes a lightly dressed mature woman with a sexy body. She keeps coming into my mind. I want to touch it so bad
     
  8. vxlccm

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    Best idea is to stay clean. Develop strength. Your efforts on controlling mental space sounds perfect. You'll be able to do this and go far with that kind of sincere strategy!
     
  9. Full ahead

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    Hello...thanks for sharing. Well, you are a human being, and having desires is natural, perfectly natural, but you won't jump to devour her because you find her attractive, there is where the control acts. Enjoy the beach and do not give too much importance to what is around you
     

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