On Chesil Beach

“Misery Porn” anyone?

On the heels of @Kenzi ’s Revolutionary Road study:

Trailer found at the end of the article.

After reading about sexual and intimacy anorexia some experience here, my SO and I saw this Netflix movie, ‘On Chesil Beach’.

Interesting review, of many found on google, only this one mentions the sexual assault by a parent that Florence seems to have experienced. That they have no words to discuss their issues points in blatant black and white way how lost they are and unable to find their way out of their ‘mess’.

Above paragraph may be
all you need to know.

I’m glad for NoFap for one,
is a source to help me disentangle the ways that the “sexual revolution” needs work still.

Could be triggering with some scenes of breasts and wedding night fumbling, which my SO and I threaded through.

Thoughts or delete thread?

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Spoiler

The woman seemed so controlling,
Pathologically seemingly. Seems a way for her to feel safe. The man she married apparently was able to be patient enough to gain her trust and she may have settled, maybe.

 

Interesting layout you wrote.

I looked away, fast forwarded or conferred with my spouse about the couples interactions, but it wasn’t excitingly explicit, but more of attempts and miscues.

I can’t really compare the book with the movie not having read one.

Did the book delve into what the specifics of her trauma were?
Sexually traumatized by her Father?
By others?

That was curious to me how early events could get set the tone for the later misdevelopment of her concepts of intimacy.

Or more likely her large need to control the situation, for her safety, before becoming sexual.

She did have several children with the 2nd husband and appeared warm and loving in her autmun years.

In my long ago past, I stopped a few times in sexual situations because it seemed it might change things and I liked the place we were in. I think I had an UNknown or UNsaid hesitation from an early sexualization from a sibling. This was why for me the movie was interesting to watch and see developed.

Turning on lights to my sexuality,
Encouraged by NF has been so helpful.