On day 32 - ED improved somewhat by 70% but PE getting worst..Need Help!!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SK81218, Jan 8, 2019.

  1. SK81218

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    Hi
    I am on day 32. Started rebooting to cure my ED & I can say that now I have improved significantly (approx 70%)in these 32 days..but PE is getting worst & worst...I can hardly stay for 20-30 seconds during continous penetration..even after start & stop, I can hardly make it up to 2-4 mins. In short, I can penetrate only 10-15 times, & then loose control...though it was never so good but earlier it was somewhat around 30-40 penetration...I could last about 8-12 mins by start & stop. & today was the new low when I was having sex with my wife, I ejaculated during foreplay only. Though foreplay was about 20 mins but still ejaculating during foreplay is the worst & that too when I was avoiding to put any pressure on my penis.
    Need serious help regarding PE now...what can I do to improve it?...is it just because of rebooting?...will it be solved automatically after few days?
     
  2. The Lone Ranger

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    I'm in the same position. Everything in my life is better without PMO - except PE.

    Used 5 different delay creams, special long lasting rubbers, even a pill prescribed from my doctor. Non of them is actually working, maybe from time to time but it’s just not a satisfying solution.

    So my goal with 2019 is to overcome this. Good luck to us!
     
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  3. Clarke

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    Just fuck your girl twice.
     
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  4. SK81218

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    Actually I have also tried delay cream once in the past but as it left us with unsatisfying experience, I never used it again. & also now don't want to use it anytime. I am also looking for some natural & life long solution...may be some experienced person can share their knowledge with us. & are we same on ED issue also?
     
  5. SK81218

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    Its not possible when you are overcoming from ED issue. Earlier I also used to do this & in 2nd time or 3rd time, I could go longer, sometime even for 40-60minutes but now its not possible, atleast for next 4-5 months till I can get back rock hard erection again!!
     
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  6. SK81218

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    Ahh!..I already read it on your threads that you haven't faced ED ever which is great..so you can 2-3 times...in 2nd or 3rd time you will have a great control over PE. Have you ever tried it my friend?
     
  7. The Lone Ranger

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    You’re right, no ED.

    Well kind of, not 2-3 times in a day but say 3 days in a row. It will make me last longer actually. Can’t say it’s because I have better control though (as in I chose when to finish). It’s more as if the previous nights took the edge of and I am slightly less exalted.

    I want to be in true control. I found a thread where a couple of guys said that they have the solution, since I have nothing better to try I will give it a go

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...d-super-simple-fix.109536/page-3#post-1844260
     
  8. The Lone Ranger

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    What’s bothering me a bit is that one guy that actually got a hold of his PE-issue said that a key ingredient was masturbating for practice. I’m not at all willing to fall back into old destructive habits. At the same time I’m very determined to get this under control..
     
  9. SK81218

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    I have also read this thread. Doing proper kegel since last 4-5 days. But what concerning me is that it is getting worst...at least it should stay where it was. & I am also avoiding edging technique mentioned by that guy, especially at this time & fir next 2-3 months...then will see If I need that...till then will keep searching another natural ways...will share with you if I found something helpful. I shall be thankful if you do the same!
     
  10. The Lone Ranger

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    Grateful! Will do!
     
  11. Skyfall1125

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    Thanks for sharing, but I want to be clear about something for your reboot moving forward. You are NOT abstaining from orgasm as you have clearly described. Please fix your sig to reflect this. You are abstaining from P&M, not PMO. This is not the same type of reboot that other folks on here are doing. However, I would encourage you to consider doing a 90-day no PMO reboot and see if you are able to find success in your struggles with PE. Talk to your partner about this. Good luck to you buddy. And again, thanks for sharing this vulnerable and sensitive information. It's very emasculating and lots of men struggle with it, but will lie about it.

    Truth is, a naked woman's body is too much for a man to handle. Far far too beautiful and perfect and clear evidence of God. Words are not enough to describe what a man feels when he is with a woman. We are not in control and no matter how much you scratch and claw at life to gain control, you will never have it. Someone else is in control.
     
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  12. SK81218

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    Thanks for taking time to write in detail...
    1. I have read here in starting that there are two mode of PMO. One is hard mode where a person will not watch porn, mast. & orgasm either by himself or with his partner. Second one is normal mode where a person will not watch porn, mast. & orgasm but can do Sex & Orgasm with his partner. So according to that we will also call it PMO (Normal Mode). This is my knowledge about PMO which I got after some readings here but if you think I am wrong, please let me know, I will change it to P&M if I can figure out how to.
    2. My partner means my wife knows everything about it..reason as well as my struggle to overcome it & supporting me beautifully. Still in a marriage when you are living together & sharing same bed, its almost impossible (atleast for me) to do the PMO(hard mode) mentioned by you.
    3. But from FEB. To MID JUNE, I have to stay away from my home for some education related purpose, then I will do the PMO ( Hard mode) as mentioned by you.
    4. I agree a woman body is amazing, evidence of GOD & hard to resist but still GOD is the same who created man also & has given the power to enjoy & make satisfied that body but somehow we misused that power & ruined it by wasting it in a wrong way. So I still believe that by amending our ways & perserving this power for the real purpose, we can achieve that control. But lets see how long fight it is going to be to regain that power.
    Thanks again for writing!!
     
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  13. Coolyorky

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    You suffer pied mate? My situation is improving hopefully
     
  14. Skyfall1125

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    I don't know of the different modes that you speak of. I only know of no PMO. Folks are entitled to choose how much they are willing to abstain from, but not abstaining from orgasm in any capacity is not a reboot. Folks on here may tell me that I am wrong and that is fine.

    Here is why I disagree: Long term porn abusers like myself have created highly sensitive pleasure channels in our brains. For me, I would watch porn and masturbate to orgasm as quickly as possible because I viewed the temptation as a burden and wanted to relieve myself as quickly as possible so that I could get back to what I was working on. 10+ years of treating one's body and mind in this way creates ultra sensitive pleasure channels in the brain. You have essentially trained your body to orgasm quickly once stimulated. That is not a normal body reaction. I believe you are still living in this mindset and by continuing to orgasm with your wife you are constantly resetting your reboot. It sounds like in your heart you want to heal, but you aren't quite ready to face the truth of what you need to do. And what you need to do is to abstain from sex with your wife for a period of 90-120 days. It will not be easy, but it is possible.
     
  15. SK81218

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    Yes...PIED.. I am married since last 1 year...everything was great for 1st 6-7 months...no ED, PE was also manageable...then my wife went through some medical condition & we can't do sex for next 3 months..in these 3 months I also had exam pressure, hence my porn consumption + mast. Frequency increased heavily. Then in nov. When I tried doing sex again, I found myself with ED. Now in 32 days PMO(normal mode), ED is getting better...somewhat I feel 60-70% improvement. It can get up easily & erection is also harder than before...but now problem is PE.
     
  16. SK81218

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    I have changed my badge from PMO to P & M only. Will set it to PMO in Feb. When I will start doing it the way you told my friend. I agree that abstaining from orgasm will speedup recovery & the best way to clean onself. This month I will stay with P & M. Thank you my friend!
     

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