On my way to take my sensation back from Evil

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by bulmalovesdota, Jul 5, 2018.

  1. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Asking for advises and this will be my diary too]
    I'm 20 years old man who is pretty new to sex life. I had my first time last year with my ex. I didnt O that time but I didnt think too much till now becoz we broke up and that was the only time we had sex. Then I have new girl friend since May. We had sex like 8 times already and I didnt come for even 1 time. My dick can get hard easily. It feels like a rock when I start touching her then it will lose 1/3 hardness during sex time. My dick went off 2 (total 8) times made my girl was really upset. She even asked me if I truly like her or not. Am I having Erectile Dysfunction?
    I was really scared about my situation and crazy searching for the treatment and yes, I found NoFap. I decided to reboot myself in 90 days. But I still hesitate to chose between hard mode and standard mode. Which way is better for my sistuation? Can you guys recommend becoz my gf is hot and I always feel horny when she is around. My goal is I can O in I. (I can come easily when M). I feel good inside my girl but it is not enough to come. For me I dont really need to come to feel happy but my girl want me to come. The fact is if she feels happy I feel happy too. And for long term, I want to have baby :).

    More infos about me: I dont think about P when I have sex with my girl. We usually do karezza style at the beginning because I feel more sensation but we speed up at the end becoz I want my girl to feel good. She always come. I started prone masturbation when I was in kindergarten (what a shame, right?). Watched porn since I was 12. I still feel lucky becoz I quit prone M and moved to death grip style few years ago plus I strengthen my leg muscles while M. Fucking bad habit. I did this Sexual Addiction Screening Test and scored a 6. Deleted all my porn collections in my PC but still have fantasies about my gf. I dont think about P while having sex with her. I have strong feeling that I can heal myself. I told my girl about my situation and lucky me, she understood. Haven't tell her about 90 days challenge becoz she is back to her country for 2 weeks but I will tell her soon when she's back. Special thanks to people who commented on my previous post (This post is the updated version of the previous one)
     
    Last edited: Jul 7, 2018
  2. Sadgirl

    Sadgirl Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Delayed Ejaculation can definitely be related to porn use and masturbation. I suspect that you have always used a "death grip" while masturbating and this has desensitized your penis. My recommendation is to stay completely away from porn and masturbation and do a 30 day no sex no pmo reboot at which point hopefully sensitivity is heightened for you. Then I would suggest that you stay away from PMO and only have sex with your partner. You are smart to be realizing this so early in life! All of your current and future relationships will benefit, not to mention your brain! Keep us posted on your revovery!
     
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  3. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    Thanks for your responding @Sadgirl . Does my situation count DE? That's what I want to know :(. Im not good in English. I tried to read in Vietnamese those things but it is hopeless because they just write a little bit information and their treatment is always an ads for their clinic. :D So you recommended me do 30 days Hard mode then 60 Day standard mode? I hope it will work :D
     
  4. Sadgirl

    Sadgirl Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    I think that it is Erectile Dysfunction. And yes 30 day hard mode then only sex with real people not your hand!
     
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  5. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Day 5]
    Day 5 is hard for me. I sleep only 3 hours last night so I was really tired at noon. I want to sleep but the urge came and I had to fight with it. So I tried to sleep at my parents' room. It's been 2 days, I always want to M myself. Last night my head is full of fantasies with my girl. Today it's gone, no more fantasy but my brain always asked me to M. I feel something in my dick all the time. Poor me. 25 days to go. The only good thing is I pulled up again for a long long time in the morning. Do some house work too, which I rarely do in past.
    P/S I feel uncomfortable while trying to sleep to because I always want to lay my face off. So I have to force my self lay my back off. I scare face off will kill my sensation. (prone M)
     
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  6. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Day 6]
    no more Fantasy, working out worked.
    I told my girl about my rebooting (she knew I had problem because of M already) and my plan. She said she will support me but she doesnt trust anyone on this site. She said she only trusts doctor for this case. She felt strange because I was the 1st guy who has that trouble.
     
  7. Sadgirl

    Sadgirl Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Doctors know nothing about PIED. Even urologists. All they do is prescribe erectile dysfunction drugs. I am a former critical care nurse- blind trust in physicians is frightening. Perhaps you could show your girlfriend Gary Wilson's you tube video "Your Brain On Porn"?
     
  8. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Day 7]
    Good to know you are working in the field. Thank you so much for your supporting.
    I shouldnt tell her yesterday. That was texting because she is on holidays. Should wait to talk face to face. She want to know more today and she offered me a call. She said she will support my decision. All I know is I believe in this treatment. I read tons of information and I see it is so logical. I believe tons of guys in my generation have the same trouble like me. She is like 15 years older than me and she hasn't had a younger boyfriend so I can understand her feeling. Porn in the past wasn't popular so it was not problem for older generation.
    Can I play with my nipples? I used to play with them and hard to give up this:( Yesterday I read some post about PIED and I realized I always strengthen up my legs muscle when M to make me O. It will be harder for my case I think. Really hard to sleep nowaday. I sleep at around 2AM and wake up at around 6. If I lucky, I can go back to sleep after my light work out session and wake up at around 10, 11. Im in my summer vacation.
     
    Last edited: Jul 7, 2018
  9. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Day 8]
    Listened a lot of PIED problem and I know I no longer wanted P in my life even if Im single. Still have trouble with my sleep (I can only sleep maximum 4 hours at night then try to re-sleep again in morning). Sunday is nice to me, I will go dancing.
     
    Last edited: Jul 8, 2018
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  10. Tokenator27

    Tokenator27 Fapstronaut

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    If I am successfully coming back from death grip on nofap hard mode, what are some positive signs of success I should experience at first? I'm on day 8 right now.
     
  11. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Day 9]
    I wish I know because Im on my day 9. May I ask you guys @GhostWriter, @Septimus about that? Also I asked a question above about playing with nipples. Hope you guys can answer that too :emoji_cry:
     
    Last edited: Jul 9, 2018
  12. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

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    I have no experience with, or expertise about, "death grip."

    As to playing with your nipples, let me ask you why you want to? And how that relates to what you want overall? If what you are asking is, how much sexual stimulation am I allowed to give myself, that is not my role. I mean, if you want to embrace my moral and religious beliefs, I am happy to share them, but I don't think that is what we are talking about. So I just don't know how to answer your question. Sometimes we want "permission" to do something we kind of know is unwise, but we really want an excuse to do.
     
  13. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    It is my habit and I want to know if it's ok or not :) If it isnt effect bad. I want to keep it but if it made me bad, I will stop it. I felt good when playing with them. Maybe you guys think Im a pervert :(. About the ''death grip''. Do you know any success story about that?
     
  14. Septimus

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    I am not trying to be difficult, but why should I decide if it is Ok? I can't answer because I don't know what playing with nipples does for you. Does it give you an erection? Then isnt that just another sort of edging?
     
  15. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    it doesnt give me erection. But I will try to avoid it step by step. Does it give other guys erection? Does it give you?
     
  16. EyesWideOpen

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    I 100% agree with this. Although, I think some urologists do know about PIED but they won't keep their patients if they tell them and will lose tons of money from the pharmaceutical companies. It's all about the money.
     
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  17. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    They do tell stop M and P but they didn't explain the deep reason why.
     
  18. Septimus

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    No. I was simply trying to answer your question.
     
  19. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Day 10]

    after watching this I decided to quit Dota 2 (game online)
    In past I quit it for a long period because I went dancing a lot, It made me forget about game so easily. It is summer vacation now and Im on Nofap, when I feel bored and play Dota again. I stop a bad addiction and started another bad addiction. I felt bad after play it, guilty when I look at my parents' eyes.
    I hope I could mark my words by writing here. Tons of thing I have to do: working on my English, playing Piano, Dancing, Studying, Working out. Grow up Vu. I will ask admin to change my name to ''Bulma''. no more ''Bulmalovesdota''
     
  20. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    [Day 11]
    Everything against me. I want to be a good man, better version of me but seems like I cant. Some bullshit happened and my dad fight me this morning. We had an argument. I denied what i didnt do then he jumped in and attacked me. I tried to defend then he said I fight him, he said Im a dog. He ask me to move out of his house,
     

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