One month without PORN, I miss it!!!

Please, don't go back there. From what I have learned from experience and research, porn won't stop becoming something worse. Asides from being a vicious cycle, pornography also becomes negatively progressive. Eventually porn will not be enough and your mind will need worse content and more addictive. Without mentioning productivity, energy and emotional impacts.

I once abstained during a month and started to missed it, I went back. Now I strongly regret it because I have been stuck again in the cycle. My advice would be really not to go there.

Have you tried any other hobbies or activities? If you have some much spare time, you should invest it in something better than porn. Believe me. It would help you to reduce the thoughts since you would be busy doing something else.

Don't give up.

 

it's only a month. and if you started when you were young and you're now 28, that's a lot of damage that needs to be reversed. give it time.

personally. i'd stop any masturbation or any reading of

it's just going to slow your reboot, or even make it not valid. you'll still feel like crap. and if you feel like after 1 month theres ABSOLUTELY no difference, then you really need to stop masturbating and reading porn.

fill your time up with activities. cook, exercise, walk, write. something. just don't be idle. it'll help you massively.

 

I have managed around 20ish days in the past with no PMO. personally I have felt much better, I think if you are masturbating at all this will limit the effect of you abstaining. You probably need to give up literotica if you want to see any benefit and try without any PMO at all. It’s all about dopamine release etc, check out yourbrainonporn.com got lots of info on there about it.

 

This exactly happened to me. I felt like I was terribly missing a friend.
What I chose to do was... Mourning. And after couple of weeks I was able top move on.

 

in my reboot there is no place for erotica. Also in TV if erotic scenes appear I just turn away. Even when I see graphic in dreams I wake up and shake it off... It is all how much determined you are to recover! Also because I am in hard mode reboot. So no human touch either.

Once I complete my recovery, I will NOT avoid graphic or erotica. But I will AVOID PMO. I will never act on it. The whole point is killing the association between porn/erotica and pleasure / dopamine / serotonin.

 

Any thing that gets you going that you masturbate to, you need to consider porn.

 

My suggestion is that you fill your day to day life with lot of other activities, healthier, outdoor, etc.

 

Why not avoid erotica?

 

Sasha by continually masturbating to porn erotica you haven’t really changed anything and have probably wasted a month.

Sounds like you need to go hard mode for a while. 30 days of that and you will definitely notice a difference.

 

You gave up something you (mistakenly) thought brought you comfort and security. You have losses to grieve, grieve them. During my first long period of abstinence is when I probably experienced grief for the first time in my life. I was 38. I also had to grieve what porn took from me, the years of a happy family and a happy marriage that I missed out on. Porn kept you from having real relationships. Now it's time to have them. Don't go back to porn. Ever. It works best for me to think of it as a seductive destroyer of all that I cherish.

-Quinn

 

I also miss porn and hardly find anything to substitude it so far. But at the same time abstaining from porn helps me understand the magnitude of my addiction. The more you miss it, the more your life looks dull without it, the harder your withdrawals are, the bigger your addiction was. I think most of us don't even realize how much we are affected. We got to the point when we can't imagine our life without porn anymore.

Literotica is the same porn, maybe even worse because when you read stories you use your imagination to create images in your head. This detaches you from the real life and people. The porn is not real, it's just a fantasy world. What I noticed during my reboot is that I'm slowly loosing my ability to fantasize and create sexual images in my head.

 

I missed it only for few weeks, not anymore

 

Ikr, I fucking hate that shit. That shit is the reason I don't watch TV at all. I only watch good cartoons (Teen Titans, Samurai Jack, etc) and anime (Dragon Ball Z, One Punch Man, etc) on KissCartoon.ac. That stuff's the shit.

Anyways, despite being only a teenager, I really hate sex scenes. They often feel just like porn and I don't know how people justify that shit at all! Really, it disgusts me, sometimes even more than porn itself. This society has now became so oversaturated with sex that it's not even funny anymore. The porn industry must be the culprit for this madness and IT MUST BE PURGED!!!

Sorry for a long rant, but I really hate this society to the point where I wanna live in the moon (metaphorically). The sheer amount of sex on everything just disturbs me. I can't imagine how worse this will get as time goes on. There's probably going to be BJ scenes and no one will bat an eyelid. Hopefully more and more people will start NoFap and maybe this society can change positively even though it'll be very slow. Peace out.

 

Extreme capitalism does that to everything. We don't realize it. Purple buy 3000 sqft houses and still hire storage boxes. Think about it. Same goes to food, waster, sex, everything.

 

I'm in the same spot currently. Every day is a constant fight against the urges. I thought it would be better by now but it's really just even worse. I can barely sleep these days.

My hunger for fetish porn is slowly eating me alive.

 

Ikr, despite being in a flatline, I'm starting to experience urges now. I don't know how to deal with them since I'm too used to not having urges during the flatline. I don't know what to do. Any ideas? I'm sure as hell not letting my massive first streak go to waste.

 

Well, the real issue we face up with masturbation is sex with women, if you gave up porn cuz you want to have cool sex with women...
Just saying, this is probably the worst advice someone can give to you, you can hire a prostitute instead of masturbating, that way you may think that what you are doing have some sense...

 

Yeah fighting PA without any real sex life is hard. I know that first hand. But I don't understand why people in a sexual relationship struggle and relapse in spite of having reel sexual relationship........