One more time

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Yashar, Nov 12, 2016.

  1. Yashar

    Yashar Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone

    I signed up last year and tried a lot things since then.
    I don't want to talk alot about my mistakes and failures and just move on.
    I used to masturbate everyday. Sometimes 6-7 times a day. Sometimes just one time but it was pretty much daily.
    Two weeks ago I had my longest streak of 30 days and I was already feeling benefits. Everything was getting more clear. I started having lucid dreams what was really awesome. Right now, after having masturbated around 6 times I feel like I'm drugged.

    I have overcome many types of adversity in my life and I just refuse to give up.

    Hell, I was able to stop smoking cigarettes and weed so why is this so damn hard for me?

    I'm a martial artist and I can easily do my training sessions even when I fap daily BUT my focus and willpower increases in a drastic way when I stop. I realized a long time ago that stopping will help me realize my potential and everytime I relapse I try again. This time it was really frustrating because I was convinced that this would be the time I'd stop completely. I want to to get rid of this habit and I know it is within my power to do it but I had a low this last few days. Trying so much and failing kinda sucks. Having lucid dreams on the last days of my (so far) longest streak I started having sex inside of these dreams and it got me so horny that I started to do it again.

    I started having doubts: Is it even possible for me to stop?

    Reading so many success stories here really gave me faith.

    I'm grateful for any advice I'll get. I stopped spending time in the forum because I thought I'd have to do it on my own. I think that is a very childish belief. I'm happy to help ANYBODY about anything going on in their lives so why shouldn't I recieve help?

    It's time for me to end it once and for all...
     
  2. Frühlingstimme

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    hey man,

    I too, thought that I could do this by myself. My longest streak was thirty days, and I relapsed because of a ... you call lucid dream; I think was something alike.

    My plan to not fail this time is come to NoFap forum every day. A guy with 700+ days of NoFap taught me that. It really is a boner killer when you log in here and teach someone how to control himself, when in fact -- I am the one needing the advice the most.

    I kind of understand your mindset. I am disgusted by some people here who can't make over a week because they are too lazy to set up a plan to stop fapping, or do it only for the girls, or start that multiple-paged rant about being alone or the classical "I talked to a girl" totally unrelated to NoFap.

    More eight days and I'll have thirty days again. I know it is possible for you to quit, I set up a plan for me that I do not want to be like those guys who spend five years on NoFap then write a successful story. I want to write a successful story in 2017, can't write one in 2016 because it's too late.

    Summarizing, do it for yourself, do it for the right reasons, do not give up and there we have a good plan to beat this addiction.

    Cheers :cool:
     
  3. Yashar

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    "Frühlingstimme" mag den Namen. Danke für den Post. Inspiration scheint man hier schnell zu finden.
     
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  5. Yashar

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    Day 1:

    Had some urges but was able to handle it without a problem.

    I'm looking forward to having a life completely free from pmo and this time I'll make it.
     
    Last edited: Nov 15, 2016
  6. Yashar

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    Day 2

    Really weak urges. It was easy to resist and do other stuff. I'm already feeling better and my energy is coming back.
     
  7. DayOne44

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    Yes, being on this site every day, several times a day, is getting me through.

    The dudes who can't keep themselves from PMO for more than a few days do not "disgust" me so much.

    Seeing these failures does discourage and disappointment me, in addition to how I've disappointed myself.

    Relapses make me question whether total abstinence is even possible.

    Perhaps, I wonder, the sex drive cannot be stopped, and if it is not exercised with a partner, then PMO is a necessary outlet.

    These are doubts that arise in my mind with relapses, my own and others', and when the urges build up in my body.

    However, I dispel these doubts.

    Those who are even less successful than I are people who simply need help.

    By encouraging others, I acquire strength, and I don't doubt the promises of NoFap when I do that.

    I reaffirm to them and to myself by belief in superpowers.

    The obsession with girls that we see here is, I agree, a little immature.

    However, that is the male sex drive, and I'm sympathetic.

    The danger is that doing NoFap only to be better with girls may feed urges.

    And, guys quitting PMO to get girls may only be setting themselves up for disappointment.

    You are absolutely right that we must do this for ourselves, first and foremost.

    The rewards that we alone get from overcoming this addiction are the only guarantees.

    Your determination in this post is a much needed inspiration.
     
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  8. DayOne44

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    The greatest self-deception is thinking we can do this alone.

    We can't.

    Our only goal is to stop PMO, and we must do that by whatever means necessary.

    The male sex drive is strong, and it seems to need an outlet.

    That makes me doubt too.

    I too know the benefits of abstinence, and when I remind myself of those every day, I know this must be possible.

    When you are asleep, the mind will do whatever it wants.

    During your waking hours, you are in conscious control of yourself.

    Some guys have anxieties about wet dreams, but those are actually a good reminder that one hasn't been masturbating.

    (Wet dreams don't happen when guys are blowing their loads in daylight.)

    You might interpret your disturbing dreams along these same lines.

    Be patient with yourself. After the frequency of your daily masturbation, stopping it suddenly will be very difficult.

    Accept that you might relapse at times.

    This is a process, and you will only really fail when you allow yourself to become discouraged.

    Quitting smoking must have taken incredible effort, and you've already developed greater self-control in that.

    I still smoke, but I'm cutting back. Now, I try to only smoke 5-6 a day.

    This is part of my NoFap program. If I can gain self-control in other areas of my life, I will have greater self-control against PMO.

    For this to work, NoFap must involve all aspects of our lives for a complete transformation of ourselves.
     
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  9. Yashar

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    Day 3:
    Didn't have time to write my journal yesterday.

    I worked out the whole morning and spent some time with my nieces in the afternoon. I watched some podcasts and read some good articles. Then I planned everything for today and went to sleep.
     
  10. Venom1

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    I'm glad that your back on track, Keep Going!!!!
     
  11. Yashar

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    Quitting smoking was hard for 3 days. After that it got easier.

    I know I stopped already. This "Run" is my last. I will stay free from pmo for the rest of my life. Life is hard right now for me and to get through all these things I HAVE TO stop masturbating or I will be stuck for the rest of my life. This actually makes me grateful for being in a Situation like that because it really humbles me and it gives me the Motivation to stop.
     
  12. Venom1

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    When you let go of masturbating & viewing porn things do get better, you just got to go through to the tough motions of the waves to get you there.
     
  13. Yashar

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    Have expierenced some emotional inbalances on the first days free from pmo.
    Everytime when I tried to stop and now there were moments where I was really emotional and even started crying.
     
  14. Venom1

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    With stopping masturbating, I never had emotional effects on me...what cause you to be emotional??
     
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  15. Yashar

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    I'm not in an easy situation right now. And there's many little things. I tend to think positive but today I kinda broke down a bit.
     
  16. Yashar

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    Day 4:

    Had some stronger urges but it was easy to keep going.

    Became a bit emotional. Don't know if it has something to do with all this.

    But I'm still going through it, no matter what.
     
  17. SeriousMike

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    You do sports. That's a good point many of us don't have.

    I guess you tried already but convert the urge into power for your training. When your body is 'strongh enough to fap' it is also strong enough for a 10 minutes workout. After that you feel relieved and exhausted. And you won against the urge.

    When you're talking about lucid dreams you mean the ones you control? Then try to go away and stop when it comes to sex next time. You know it's a dream and you know it's just a nasty trick coming from your brain.

    PS: I'm also from Germany - if you want you can PM me ;)
     
  18. Yashar

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    Bin aus der Schweiz.

    Yeah it was one of those I was able to control and yeah I kinda gave in to the trick my brain played me.
     
  19. SeriousMike

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    Korrigiere: *deutschsprachiger Raum :)

    I also had several lucid dreams before but I lost the focus on getting them. Now as I started to reboot again I will have some time for it.

    I feel that the brain doesn't like us to control our thoughts so it tries everything to get back the control by distracking us. Once I thought 'Wait, that's a dream I'm in!' and a person in the dream just told me 'No, that's totally ok that we are flying.'
     
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