One of the hardest to quit completely?

It's that defeatist kind of attitude that guarantees you will never quit. If you're mode of thinking is: "it's biologically driven, sex is all around, blah blah blah" then yeah you're chances of quitting are nil.

The biological drive is to procreate, have sex, find men/women attractive and desire them. It's not to watch porn or jerk off like zoo monkeys. That is a product of our hypersexualized culture.

Porn addiction is a behavioral addiction. Unlike caffeine or nicotine, which are substance addictions. With substance abuse getting off the substance is one of the keys to beating it.

Porn addiction is a behavioral addiction. You're addicted to the process of huge dopamine surges in your brain that happen due to porn. As an ex-smoker, devout tea/coffee drinker, ex-pothead and General queer of Most Recreational Drugs, I can tell you porn addiction I the toughest one I've tried to break. (And sugar. The fuck is it with sugar??).

The pre elands of porn, it's accessibility and was of use make it especially dangerous.

But yes it can be defeated. You just have to have the right tools, the right mindset and the fucking balls to do it. Don't listen to your addiction telling you'd hit like:

"It part of our biology."
"To hard to avoid sexual images."
"It's natural to look at porn. "
"Masturbation is endorsed by the medical community."
Etc

You can do it. You just have to really want to. Like "I-may-have-to-refrain-from-orgasms-for-months want it bad. Like I-may-have-to-dump-my-entire-vault-of-half-naked-cosplay-babes-to-get-over-this bad. Like getting off social media for

How bad you want it?

 

Nothing good comes easy. A little pain is part of the lesson.

 

I say treat it one day at a time. You know it's highly unlikely that you can use porn in moderation but you still are not ready to fully let go the idea is daunting to you. So if you set small goals and meet those it seems easier and as time goes on it will be easier. It may Be that it's harder to quit because you don't see it as being all that bad and neither does society. Society shames smokers and you can see the negative effects on your body. Caffeine is more accepted but you can also see the effects physically and there are studies about it maybe with porn you don't see those effects and you think it's normal everyone does it why can't I? Most guys look in moderation this is not fair? As a SO who ended things with a pmo addict because it caused ED and ruined our relationship with lies. Let me preview the negative effects for you. One day You will meet the woman of your dreams and your addiction will kill that relationship. You won't be able to get erect with her or you will but you won't be able to orgasm. She will feel unattractive she will be convinced it's her fault. She will try to help you and you will try to stop but you won't be able to just yet. You will lie she will catch you she will never trust you again. She will carry that with her into every relationship. You will think it's her that some other prettier woman will fix your issues but she won't. You will feel ashamed you will feel alone and you will ask yourself how could porn cause me so much pain? If only I knew if only I had stopped earlier?! It's easier to stop when you are single. Prepare yourself for love and you will reap the benefits. For my ex and many others it was too late to change. If you are not convinced step over to the SOs page. I hope I can reach you. I hope this helps.

 

"I actually wish I could accept it as a moderate activity, but I'm not sure I can..."

Let me be blunt: You can't watch porn in moderation, so stop trying.

I've tried to do the same and failed, and there are probably hundreds of thousands (or millions) of others who have done the same. You've got to commit to completely removing porn from your life, as there simply is no other way.

I know where you're coming from on other addictions. While I was never as heavy of a user of them as I was pornography, I quit drinking alcohol and smoking marijuana without any real difficulty. I just one day decided I didn't like the effect they were having on my life and felt it would be best to quit. I did so, and have never looked back.

Not so with PMO. I'm not sure of the number of times I've decided to quit, but it's got to be in the hundreds. And I'm sure there are plenty of others who could claim the same. PMO has to be fought with 100% intensity for the rest of our lives. You've got to adopt the mentality that you're willing to do whatever it takes, as anything less will result in continued failure.

 

you have to understand its a sacred act that were abusing here. that's why a lot of monks etc are practicing celibacy. You make something that's supposed to be limited and turn it into unlimited your going to bring havoc into your life. There is also no means to end with PMO its going to be a practice for you for the rest of your life, its a life journey. A lot of people who have done hard-mode reboots for years months still MO i would say or even O, but defiantly with a partner or something.