Online Dating

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by b-v-o-y, Aug 10, 2019.

  1. b-v-o-y

    b-v-o-y Fapstronaut

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    I'm new to all this. Dated a nice girl for 2 months and we both decided to just stay friends. Didn't hold hands once, and a friend of mine told me I should at least do this by the 3rd date.

    What do ya'll think?
    Like I said, new to all this. I wish there was a manual that told me about this sh*t but like all my friends and I are learning too and we in our 20s (well not me yet but soon lmao).

    And another question for you: what's the difference between online dating and traditional dating? Approach - wise. I've heard for online dating you barely know them, so take it slow with the intimate physical contact, and for traditional dating once you confess you've already had a history before that so it's okay to jump right in and you're basically official right away. Ofc it depends from person to person but I wanna know what you guys think.
     
  2. b-v-o-y

    b-v-o-y Fapstronaut

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    Bump hehe I see a lot of views but no comments help a brother out :eek:
     
  3. AAbo23

    AAbo23 Fapstronaut

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    For me, I don't understand online dating. I tried tinder but at the time was looking for an actual date and not a hook up. I like a person to person connection because 1. you can read the vibe from that person 2. you know what they look like and 3. you're actually talking to a person face to face. It might just be me but I like to make eye contact when talking to someone. Its harder to read emotions and expressions over a text.
     
  4. b-v-o-y

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    Definitely agree. I think the purpose of online dating apps isn't to just stay on there though, it's to translate that to an actual face-to-face date (so the name is kind of misleading).
     
  5. Shy_1990

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    online dating is a numbers game.
    Don't write long messages. Just intimate with as many girls as possible and you might get a 1% response rate. Its a harsh game, don't get emotionally involved unless you actually start spending time with someone nice. Its all about the image. It mostly comes down to your appearance and profile pics.

    Traditional dating can either happen slowly, like slowly getting close to someone at work
    or quickly at a bar. The quick version is a bit like online but maybe easier because you can show her the best side of yourself which can't work online.

    Online dating is not good for people on nofap because all the girls put up bikini pics or yoga pant pics and it borders on softcore porn a lot of the time.
     
  6. OnTheEdge

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    The trouble with online dating is that there is so much selection that people (including yourself) always have your mind on what else is out there. Say you find a girl who is 80% what you're looking for but then someone else comes along who is 90%, you're naturally going to want them and vice versa. That's why you're likely to get 'ghosted'.

    I went on a few dates with one person from online dating but since then it's fallen flat. My motivation isn't great so I'm probably not trying anywhere near hard enough, anyway. Girls 'like' me and I 'like' them back, I send them a message and they either a) don't reply, b) reply one or twice then stop or c) reply a good few times and then ghost me. In option c) most of the time they send one word answers and don't make any effort to ask questions. My current thinking is if something is too easy it's not a good option for you. If you really want a girlfriend you are better off going out to find one. If you are struggling to meet girls and have resorted to online dating, you are kidding yourself (like me) and really do actually need to go outside and put some real effort in.
     
  7. Get behind me Satan

    Get behind me Satan Fapstronaut

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    Online dating has taught me one thing: women are just weird and inconsistent. But we knew that already.
     
  8. Knight81

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    Im trying the online dating thing myself. It makes me feel like I'm digging at the bottom of the barrel for something good. The object is to connect with a potential meet up in person date, or hook up. Depending on what your goal is. So far, all the dates I've gone out on weren't at all keepers. They looked better online and it doesnt say much. The hot "model" profiles are either bots or catfishers, or just fake profiles to keep you interested, and engaged. Its a tactic to make you pay for a subscription
     
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  9. b-v-o-y

    b-v-o-y Fapstronaut

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    Yeah it's kind of discouraging when you try so hard and put in all this effort for nothing, but there is always a chance. I think I learned somewhere that online dating has similar chances of success as traditional dating.
     
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  10. Knight81

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    True there, it can happen, but be careful, don't send any money to them no matter what sob story they give you. They will play with your feelings, throw themselves at you, tell you they love you, but they can be scammers
     
  11. b-v-o-y

    b-v-o-y Fapstronaut

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    Lmao yeah anything to do with money, I'm not touching that with a stick
     
  12. harris37

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    I would forget online dating, ive spent way too much time on those things. I've had many dates off them but you can't beat a real life interaction when meeting in person. Women on these sites have way too many options... Get way too many messages so your in constant competition with other guys... If you don't stand out you won't win. My message game became on point because I didn't give a fuck what I said to them but I think it's way too much effort when you can be doing something to improve yourself instead of chasing girls. Get out in the real world and up your game and approach that way. All online dating is... is hiding behind a screen plus all the best girls are not on these sites and vice versa
     

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