Online sexual relationship

I myself did then same, but she found out on her own, I didn't have the balls to tell her myself, it absolutely crushed her, and I broke all the trust that she had with me, since then I have done nothing but make living amends and have developed complete transparency with my wife, it has taken some time but I believe I am slowly gaining some of the trust I once had with her. she put her ring back on yesterday , and for that I will never forget the feeling I had once I seen it back on her finger,, because I can't be hypocritical on the matter, if our s.o's did what we have done to them... I'm sure you know what we would do.. not entirely sure what kind of advice you are looking for, but I say complete honesty and transparency is key, me and my wife almost talk about it daily, the more you talk about something the less power you give it, and also it shows your wife you can be vulnerable at times, which is ok, and she will appreciate it