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Orgasm Control

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by King777, Dec 21, 2019.

  1. Dec 21, 2019 #1
    King777

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    The main reason why I decided to be a fapstronaut was not just to get rid of porn or rebooting, but most importantly it was to improve myself, especially in bed.
    I'm pretty sure there are many of you amigos here that are after personal development including a better sex life.

    So porn and masturbation are closely related with orgasm, after all none of us would watch porn or masturbate if we were not rewarded wit an orgasm in the end.

    One thing that I noticed was that porn and masturbation affected my ability to control my orgasm. Now it is harder for me to get aroused, maintain the erection and control my orgasm.

    What do you amigos think about the case?

    Are there any techniques that you really tried, proven to be working?

    What mindset should one have in order to control his orgasm?

    What approach do you think is the best?

    What about tantric sex?

    Please share your own thoughts and well earned experiences.

    Let's help each other in order to make more women happier gentlemen.
     
    King777, Dec 21, 2019
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  2. Dec 21, 2019 #2
    i_have_pizza

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    I think, that one of the quationable benefits of watching porn is that you can do sex for long if you have erousal of'course. It was normal for me to have 30-60 minutes process, when you already wet and tired (My stamina sucks, yeah), but u're not able to end. Sometimes I was using porn and hand in the end and very rarely was able to reach orgasm all by myself. I prefer to have orgasms in 10-15 minutes and just have a couple of round per evening, but I physicaly can't. After sex if I get arousal again - only with porn, not with partner. So, porn and dry masturbation definitely lowers ability to reach orgasm. At least for me.
     
    i_have_pizza, Dec 21, 2019
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  3. Dec 22, 2019 #3
    King777

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    That's strange;

    watching porn actually had the opposite effect on me, I now tend to ejaculate earlier. I think it is because during watching porn the only chance to have some pleasure is the moment you reach orgasm. To be honest my hand doesn't make me feel the same like a woman does.

    Another point here is that scenes and women in porn are usually much more seductive than real life, so I kinda started to lost my ability to appreciate the woman I'm having sex with, to be honest, most of them couldn't not turn me on..

    This may sound strange but whenever I was fucking a hot girl I lasted longer. With not-so-seductive ladies I tend to come earlier.
     
    King777, Dec 22, 2019
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  4. Dec 22, 2019 #4
    i_have_pizza

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    I'm getting pleasure throuth process of watching porn and I was enjoing it. Not only the end. For me it was like falling into the better world for a moment. Most of the time I was looking for porn, that can give this feeling, rarely when it's just a usual porn to get good erection.
     
    i_have_pizza, Dec 22, 2019
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  5. Dec 22, 2019 #5
    Saythatagain

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    Before I started recovery and NoFap I would mostly have to watch myself so I wouldn't cum before I wanted. I found when the pressure was off, after I had brought her to O from oral or manual I could just relax and enjoy her and myself. I tried some of the practices they discuss here with moving the energy around from bottom to top. We had a session of very slow, deliberate intimacy that lasted almost 2 hours. We looked into one another, full body contact and my thrusting was continual but slow. Only a few times did I have to stop so I wouldn't cum. It beat out any hard core sex I had ever had.

    Spend a fraction of the time you had previous used to PMO and explore stuff in a good way. I think you will be amazed.
     
    Saythatagain, Dec 22, 2019
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  6. Dec 22, 2019 #6
    CodeTalker

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    Weirdly enough I don’t masturbate for the orgasm. I do it because it feels good and during that time I forget everything. If I could go on forever I would probably do it if really horny. That’s why my pm sessions are always multiple hours. I feel really frustrated if it’s too short.
     
    CodeTalker, Dec 22, 2019
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  7. Dec 23, 2019 #7
    King777

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    Thank you Saythatagain, I really appreciate your advice; and you actually made me remember a few women with whom I experienced that intimacy and making sweet love for hours without ejaculating but with lots of orgasms for her. And the sensation in the end for me was way more beautiful than having an orgasm. However those women are gone now and I've been practicing my sexuality with "not so intimate ladies" so the only way that I enjoy having sex with them is going hardcore.
    There is less emotion and more lust in me now. And the truth is, I like it that way too.
    Even so:
    I know what this means... And I miss it.
     
    King777, Dec 23, 2019
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