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Our perceptions towards women.

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Kingofanew_world, Apr 24, 2021.

  1. Kingofanew_world

    Kingofanew_world Fapstronaut

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    I have been an addict to pornography from a very young age hence my perception of women have changed. There were many times that I felt to myself to perform stunts that porn actors perform. I am not able to escape from this. Can you all suggest how I can change my views about women and move a step towards recovery?
     
  2. Well what is the source of these feelings? Pornography and social media I would imagine, so what do you need to avoid?
     
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  3. matt2k12

    matt2k12 Fapstronaut

    Cut the source, observe the change.
     
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  4. Watching porn constantly is damaging your perception, even if you don't realize.

    Once you've been off porn for some time, you will now how your perception changes.
    I can assure that before i got rid of porn i thought my look was clean. Not gonna lie, it probably was better that plenty of guys (as i want to stay virgin till marriage, i don't consider girls as potential sex partners, as preys), but still, only now i can realize how dirty my mind had become.
    Same of those changes are:
    -Women in general seem more beautiful. Watching porn makes you consider porn actresses as "normality". Even if you rationaly know that not every woman has the body and the face of a P actress, your subconscious doesn't.
    -Less intrusive sexual thoughts. For me, it was really annoying, as i had any kind of thoughts with anyone.
    -Vanilla sex looks great. Before, it could even bore me. When imagining sex with my future wife, vanilla didn't seemed as enough pleasurable. Now, it looks great. Even more:
    -I don't see sex as just something physical. Even i wanted to stay virgin, i could imagine myself having sex with anyone, without love involved in the act.
    -Porn seems cheesy and sad. Let me clarify, i still would find it pleasurable, but with this new perspective, it seems lame. Sure, i loved watching naked woman moaning, but i was pathetic, waiting till night, watching it in a cold bathroom, worried that someone could catch me, trying hard not to make any sound. So sad. Thinking about the videos i used to watch really cringes me.
    That are some of the best changes i experimented.
     
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  5. The questions I am currently working with are these: To what extent do I actually care about the happiness of the women in my life? To what extent does that happiness have anything to do with me? In what ways have the women I’ve known over the years benefitted my life? To what extent am I grateful?

    I hope that helps.
     
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