Out-of-control erection

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by tj21, Jan 11, 2019.

  1. tj21

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    Hello guys. Im a new person here and im seeking for solutions for the problem that i'm having right now. The problem is i easily get unwanted aroused feeling when i am interacting with my girlfriend, and when i'm aroused i get erection which will cause clear fluid came out of my penis. It really discomfort me and it will badly effect my relationship with her. I hid about this matter from her. I don't encountered this kind of problem during the earlier time of my relationship with her, and i don't experience this problem with other girls. I just don't know why this happens to me, i never fantasy-sexualized her or masturbate at her picture or let alone have sex with her. Even when we were talking about normal stuff i easily get erection and aroused. Do any of you know the causes of this problem and is there any solution for this issue that i am having? I really hope i could get away from this problems cause i don't want to lose her because of this..
     
  2. This is quite normal for young men your age.
     
  3. tj21

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    Then how do i overcome that? My friends with their partners are just normal and they seems to not having the similar problem to me
     
  4. Uruvug

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    Do you feel aroused too? If so, just jerk off. and relieve some of that sexual energy (either that or just have sex with her) but if sex is not an option yet, then just let your hand do the handy work. Over-masturbation is bad, and a lot of people in this forum are trying to overcome problems caused by it, together with a lot of porn, but if your issue is that you have a constant boner, then it would not do any damage to just go ahead and release some semen.
     
  5. tj21

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    Having sex with her is never gonna be my option. And i wanted to solve this by not involving any sexual acts (masturbating, having sex with her etc). I will masturbate ONLY if it could guarantee will solve the problems that i will never have unwanted erection/stimulation when im with her again
     
  6. Depressed&Out

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    Why on earth would you want to get rid of erections when you're with your GF??

    Is that not what we all want???
     
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  7. Uruvug

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    Is there any particular reason, like religious or other, that you don't want to masturbate at all? Since you don't seem to have issues with ED I don't think that would be a reason. Also may I ask why you cannot have sex with her? Is it because you are not married? Or another reason?
     
  8. Uruvug

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    Sorry, I meant to quote tj21 in the previous comment
     
  9. tj21

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    Because i respect her and our relationship
     
  10. tj21

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    But i easily get erection over simple things like when we are having conversation or when we met with each other..even listening to her voice during call could give me erctions. That is what im trying to solve here...
     
  11. Uruvug

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    Are you implying that having sex is disrespectful??? I honestly don't see why that would be the case. Unless you have some religious or cultural reason, having sex with a woman is simply a manifestation of the love that you feel for her. Sex is not a dirty or immoral thing.

    Anyways, I keep saying the same thing. The reason why your penis get's erect so easily is because right now it is like a AK-47 with a full magazine with the safety off. I mean, you have probably accumulated too much semen over a long period of not having sex and that semen wants to be released, so the body is letting you know. The slightest cue that your brain gets about releasing this semen, you will have a strong response to it. So, as I said before, I would just masturbate and release some of it, though preferably just have sex with her. But if you don't want to have sex and you don't want to masturbate at all, then I don't know what else would work for you buddy.
     
  12. tj21

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    Yes, it is religious reason. But i dont think semen accumulation is the cause. I think its rather my psychology somehow has problems, thats why. But if it is the reason, how can i fix it?
     
  13. tj21

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    Have you try it? Is it safe? Will it guarantee that my problem will be gone?
     
  14. One Mic

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    Dude, no. That's a terrible idea. Unless you're actively looking to damage your sex drive, I vehemently discourage doing that.

    I'm not sure you can. You're telling us that you want to stop getting random erections with your girlfriend (which essentially means to stop getting aroused when you're with her), even though we can't really control when we get an erection or not, you're not willing to have sex with her, and you're not willing to masturbate unless there's a guarantee that you'd stop getting erections.

    I also fail to see why a natural bodily function would affect your relationship with your girl. So you got an erection. So what? Why is it affecting you guys so negatively? Is it against your religion to find her sexually attractive? Because your body clearly does.

    Let's assume there's a guarantee that excessive masturbation will get rid of your erections (because doing it just once probably won't do it). Even if it works, are you sure you'd rather substitute masturbating all the time and damaging yourself to the point where it'd take at least 90 days (more definitely being possible) of being clean to be free of having a random erection with your lady? And should the both of you actually decide to have sex, you stop being able to get erections at all?

    I ask you for some more details of what you're thinking because so far, I'm inclined to tell you to just deal with it.
     
  15. Clarke

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    Yes it 100% works. This website is filled with people who did that and now they never get unwanted erections ever.

    Op has a problem with a basic biological trait. It's literally the only thing that will solve his problem short of removing his testicles. I can confirm that after doing that I had zero ability to get an erection with my gf even if I wanted to.
     
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  16. ClaritySeeker

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    This is a normal/young/healthy reaction to a beautiful woman. You are having precum because you're getting so turned on by your girlfriend. You can try masturbating before you see her, this might calm you down a bit. Don't look at porn and don't fantasize about anything. Just masturbate to relieve yourself and relax.
     
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  17. tj21

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    It's not that i don't wanna have any erections at all, i just wanna avoid getting erections and feeling aroused over my girlfriend..bcos i think that is not a normal thing, and whenever i gets turned on i find it is hard to focus myself. And i believed my friends dont experience the same thing towards their gf.
     
  18. Uruvug

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    I get that it can be an awkward situation if it happens constantly, even though many here would want to have that problem instead of the problem of not being able to get hard when needed. Just nut and release a bit of sexual tension.
     
  19. IAmLegion

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    Please read the name of the forum you're in.
     
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