over 2 months sober, Grace is available in these challenging times

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  1. Claude1

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    Hi everybody, I felt it would be nice and helpful to tell my story.

    I’m a 48 years old man and pornography as always been part of my sexual life. My father had porn magazines and movies (internet wasn’t there yet) and I looked often at it as a teenager. 12 years ago I decided to cancelled my internet connection cause I wasn’t able to stop watching porn. Over the years I had several relapses, downloading porn wherever I can, flirting with the fear of being caught.

    At one moment I even got over a year without watching porn but I always knew I wasn’t cured. It was only by my will that I succeed in staying away from porn. But I ended relapsing more often after this.

    Now with the lockdown, I needed to have an internet connection cause my courses at the university were given online only. I had no choice. So I had a 10 days notice before the connection is operational. During those days, before sleeping, I prayed. Not in a religious way but in a personal spiritual way. Over the last years I opened myself to the teachings of some spiritual teachers, living or deceased. I made some retreat. I was praying to heal different dysfunctional aspects in my life but it seems not to work, to my despair.

    So during those 10 days I prayed. I dedicated my prayer to a feminine Indian master (Ma Ananda Mayi, now deceased) cause I trusted her and need the sacred feminine polarity of human to help me. I also invoked my dear mother (also deceased), to help me heal. This is very personal and it has not to be this way for someone else.

    After those 10 days of prayers, my internet connection was working and it only took a couple of hours before I watch porn. For three days I watched porn, a little desperate. Then I decided to look for videos on porn addiction. That’s where I heard about Nofap. I read a lot of interesting things here. I received a Nofap document that I read partially.

    Something subtle happened then. It’s a mix of being informed, that I acted like a junky who need is fix, and a mix of Grace I was asking for so long.

    The day after this I knew I was healed. It’s difficult to explain. Of course, I didn’t wan’t to fooled myself, so I was careful, but it was so strong this feeling of being free from any sexual temptation. Now it’s been over 2 months I haven’t watched porn and it’s so easy, there is no more struggle. I saw images that would normally triggered me but there is just no desire to go there anymore, and it even makes me laugh. There is something different, it’s a deep realisation. I keep the nofap document in the case I would have a craving and promise me I would read the rest of it before any unexpected comeback of the craving but honestly, it would be highly surprising that occurring.

    I feel so grateful and I continue my prayers, this time to thank and express my gratitude. Now I understand why some alcoholics say that an alcoholic is one for the rest of his life. That was the same for me, even when I was abstinent for long periods, I sensed that the problem was still there and had to be careful. But I can also understand why in the AA they say “ we came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity”, and also "We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him". And then Grace can come, at it’s moment and we are finally delivered once and for all.

    I will conclude saying that now is a very good time to cure. These difficult times were living in right now are proportionally beneficials for those who looks for help and healing. And I deeply believe that when one is cured, it facilitates the cure for others, as we are all connected on the deepest level. Let’s live in harmony : we all know what is good and what is not right for us. I wish you all the best!
     
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  2. Aaron4545

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    that is really amazing .. i really feel you when u said that when u read that document and felt cured... i really feel that way although im only 5 days only on a reboot and like wise i also fear that im only saying that to myself and return to P anytime ... i even question my self if it is a good time to stop pmo wile we are in alockdown with reduced activities and all that... hope it ends well and good luck with ur reboot
     
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  3. Claude1

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    As I wrote, I do believe it is an extremely good time to heal. I'd say : the greatest the challenge, the greatest opportunity there is. The more benefits you can access...
     
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  4. Claude1

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    I guess it has to do with the post I wrote yesterday cause I had a whole night of dream related to pornography and excitement. I woke up many times. When I was between worlds I feared I would relapse. I had an erection most of the night. But when I woke up fully, I had absolutely no interest in going there. I think it was only a relic of my ancient life, like the wheel of a bicycle that continues to spin for a while after you stopped pedaling.
     
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  5. Tonfo

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    That is a really inspiring story. I relate to what you said about having quit for long periods of time but still not feeling healed. There seems to be a big difference between not watching porn, and feeling like you don't need/want to watch it. I am really glad that you are making great progress! You have inspired me.
     
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  6. SSA-

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    @Claude1

    I have just read your journey mate and wow I am very impressed and motivated by your success. I am early on in my recovery and wanted to ask how do you best deal with urges/cravings, is this something that you just have to embrace and push through?

    Also do these urges decrease with time or are they always high

    Thanks Mate
     
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  7. :)-keepsmiling

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    Really happy for you mate!!
    Enjoy your life!!
    Cheers
     
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  8. Claude1

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    Hi dear, I would say that each step you make to try to improve is worth it. Relapse is no big deal. Don't focus on that, focus on your desire to be free. I don't know exactly where my freedom come from but it is surely a little bit of everything I tried : period of abstinence, watching inspirational videos, reading spiritual books, eating well. Anything that can nourish your soul, that you feel is right. Because our dysfunctions are many so we have to see the big picture, porn addiction is just one part of the global dysfunction. Our souls are ill and once we recognize it, we do what is necessary to get better. We try, we just try to do our best.
    The urges come and go. They are not always high.
    I am touched by your desire to recover and am sure you will succeed at the right time.
     
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  9. SSA-

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    Thank you for your reply my friend and already your words have inspired me and I am no going to make an even more bigger effort is beating this. I have started a journal on here to hold me accountable and my plan is to update eeryday.

    Thanks Again and well done on your journey
     
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  10. Claude1

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    I discovered also that there can be a place for masturbation occasionally but it has not to connect with pornography, obviously. Those are two complete different things. When a stressful situation is lived for example, one might want to do it to get a little relief and there is no harm as long as you stay centered on your real desire to heal and respect your integrity.
     
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  11. egill

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    I also believe this. It's why active recovery is a must. You just keep learning and doing what you can if only just to be a bit better than yesterday. When the time comes, the stars aligned, and you will soar to another level.
     
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