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Overcoming fetish, overcoming compulsion, overcoming confusion. How I became king again.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Hiraeth, Apr 12, 2017.

  1. Hiraeth

    Hiraeth Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys.

    Though my streak isn't on day 30 or beyond, I have had major success.
    I have watched p0rn for a few years. Compulsively since about 2,5 years. It confused me about my sexuality and even identity.
    Orgasmic pleasure is deeply rooted in our personality and linking your orgasm to deviant sex/porn can undermine your whole person.
    What I did, may it not be right for everyone, was, after having watched 'weirdo' porn for quite a time, was going back to watching vanillia,hetero, male point of view p0rn.

    I watched male pov porn for about a week, i believe. I didn't feel ashamed when fapping to male pov porn, on contrary it reinforced my natural sexuality and fapping/orgasming to it overwrote all the deviant pathways in my brain. In a way, i fought fire with fire, the second fire became bigger than the first fire and engulfed it. The cancer ate the cholera, if you will.

    Right now i still masturbate from time to time. I do not feel the need to watch porn anymore. I am the manliest i have ever been. no more brain fog, no more other detrimental side effects. I am on week two right now i think.
    I do not crave porn anymore, which has been my biggest obstacle.
    I am confident, unbreakable confident.
    My whole person, my whole identity changed once I unrooted my deviant sexual tastes. It made me a whole new person. It's like a frog crawling out of it's well and seeing a whole new world.

    I think I may still masturbate from time to time. But if I do, I will do it in a vanilla way, and think about girls I am found of, in a respectful, loving way.


    Ever heard of 'pavlov's dog'.
    Every time Pavlov ringed a bell he served his dog food.
    He did that for quite a time. In the end he just needed to ring the bell, without serving food and the dog still had a watering mouth and was excited.

    Now, most of us trained ourselves to be that dog, in relation to porn.

    But what would happen if, every time he ringed the bell, Pavlov gave the dog a bone to crunch on or a ball to play with or maybe pet the dog.

    In a short matter of time, the bell ringing + substitute would overwrite the old neuropath-pattern.
    The dogs mouth would stop watering and he would, for example obediently wait for has petting-session or get in a playful mode and wait for the ball.

    It's important to note that you can't substitute 'something' with 'nothing'.

    That's why it is stupid to watch porn and not masturbate. Your neurons in the fetish neuropath would still activate because that's what they always have done. like the dog always got food when the bell rang. it's the same thing with not watching porn but fantasizing about your fetish + masturbating. you would still enforce the same old pattern.

    There are ONLY two ways to get rid of a fetish:

    1. Overwriting the neuropathway with something else (for example a preference for vanilla sex, like i did)

    or

    2. waiting a long time (and hoping) for the neuropathway to atrophy and the saved information to get deleted in the process because the brain would need the space for something else.

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    Now, my advantage was that my fetish aroused me more than vanillia P but I could still be aroused by vanilla P. It may be hard to use this technique when you can't at all, fap to vanillia.

    I also wouldn't recommend ending your streak just to try this out.
    I only talk out of personal experience, you may try it out at your own risk.

    Well that's my story. I am back to being a manly man. I don't suffer from compulsive porn addiction anymore. I still do masturbate sometimes but the 'urges', if you can even call them that, are moderate and nothing like before. I am back in control and life seems easy as pie. I just am angry with myself that I wasted so much time on such a stupid addiction.

    Best of luck, brothers.
     
    Last edited: Apr 12, 2017
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