Overwhelming feeling of sadness causing me to want porn?

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  1. skaterdrew

    skaterdrew Fapstronaut

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    At this present moment I am not even horny at all. I even tried to masturbate using my imagination and I stopped because I am just not horny at all.

    But I feel this overwhelming feeling of sadness for no reason. I just am getting these thoughts in my head that life is hopeless, and there is nothing really worth living for, there is nothing that I really enjoy doing all that much, and life is just pointless.

    I was severely hit with these feelings and thoughts tonight. But strangely I feel like I want some porn and artificial sexual stimulation to comfort myself. It doesn't seem like I want it for any other reason, except to purely give me some sort of comfort when I am feeling this miserable and hopeless.
     
  2. g2stop

    g2stop Fapstronaut

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    Don’t do it, it will make you feel worse
     
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  3. g2stop

    g2stop Fapstronaut

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    You have to learn to deal with negative feelings. I suggest the book feeling great by David burns. I had the feelings that life was pointless, everything was hopeless etc. This is depression caused by depressive thoughts. It can also be triggered by porn withdrawal. You can either wait till it passes or use techniques like those in the book... they really help me and I have only been through a few chapters.
     
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  4. WHMvsPMO

    WHMvsPMO Fapstronaut

    Totally makes sense and no doubt you're not the only one. Even if life mostly sucks you can choose to focus on things and people that stand out from the mess. The fact that people on here are all fighting this thing is a pretty good start.
     
  5. CrimsnBlade

    CrimsnBlade Fapstronaut

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    Ya man I'm pretty sure anyone who has been addicted to porn knows exactly what this is like. It's pretty common I think. Especially when we're used to overloading our systems with dopamine and feeling that high, it's easy to feel like we're depressed when we don't have it.

    This is something that will get better with time though as long as you stay sober. The more you stay away from porn the more normal your brain will become, and you'll start noticing things that used to do nothing for you actually bring you more joy because you're not so constantly overloaded with dopamine.
     
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  6. porn doesn't help you, you'll just get addicted and try to escape reality, not a good idea
     
  7. fredisthebes

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    I can really relate to this. I convinced myself for years that i was using porn multiple times a day because i was a super horny and sexual person. But I now know that this isnt true, and i was actually seeking comfort and happiness and excitement etc. I think this is why my addiction didnt go away when i formed sexual relationships, as i was still insecure and stressed and depressed etc and i had come to 'rely' on PMO to make me feel better (not that it works!)
     
  8. I'm going through a bit of this myself. I'm not even really horny, just bored and also tired all the time.
    It's a difficult place to be. Also really dangerous because your p*** cravings start to trick you.
    I think you might be experiencing a flatline, which is normal after 3-4 days without p***.

    Check out this great article, might help you out: https://andreian.com/nofap-flatline/
     
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  9. Dudewiththeproblem

    Dudewiththeproblem Fapstronaut

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    These last couple of years i did not PMO becouse i was horny but becouse it was comforting. I liked the fantasy of girls giving me attention, talking into the camera like it was to me and the physical pleasure. Nothing is free thought, PMO is like trying to get something for nothing. Like drugs.
    Everything else feels emty and meaningless as you desensitize your dopaminreceptors, it couses changes in the brain making you function and think worse. Depression is inevitable. Stop PMO now, it will only get worse with age..
     
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