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PA here, trying to quit and save my marriage

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by vapid, May 1, 2019.

  1. Dr. Mario

    Dr. Mario Fapstronaut

    Innit funny how that works?
     
  2. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    I know, right? Hahaha! I wished it was this easy all the time.
     
  3. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    Checking in. So far, so good. I've been able to be in control of the monster so far.

    I think about watching, thinking "just a little won't hurt", but I am able to divert my attention by keeping myself busy and again focusing and spending time with the family.

    I realized that it's when I am alone that I am the weakest. I guess that too can be a strategy that we can use. Instead of staying at home when your partner goes out, why don't you offer to accompany them so you can spend more time with them ( you can hit two birds with one stone)? Or seek out friends you can hang out with so you can stay out of trouble.
     
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  4. hitnmis

    hitnmis Fapstronaut

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  5. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    Another weekend done, urges are getting less and less, but they are still there. I try to place my attention to my wife and kids. We had a great time last weekend. And me and my wife also have been doing great so far. She has began seeing me as a different person. I hope that eventually we can have the same level of trust as we had when we were starting out. This is what motivates me to keep going. It feels good to be trusted and it is rewarding to be free from guilt and remorse. I hope everyone here is doing okay.
     
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  6. Let's go vapid, let's go! (clap, clap).

    Don't give up now man, you got this.by the end of the week, you will have earned the right to celebrate the 30 day milestone, start planning your toast and speech. (i know it's not finished, but you know how big this is for you, don't skimp, or skip the importance, share it with as many people as you dare. That will become one more reason to build on the success and flip the lifestyle completely.

    You got this!
     
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  7. JPDrive

    JPDrive Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for sharing. It’s nice to hear that things get easier over time and that relationships improve.
     
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  8. Badvock

    Badvock Fapstronaut

    Scale modeller here too, used to do 35th armour but moved onto 48th modern jets now, most of my stuff in the attic at home so no access to my favourite hobby :( Glad to hear you have things starting to come under control now and that your wife is understaning and accepting of things. :)
     
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  9. Hey @vapid MIA this past week; hope things are going good man.
    Send a smoke signal.
     
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  10. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    Hi brother, I was out last week and had to take care of some family business.

    Streak is still on, and I've been able to control my urges better. I can see the benefits of avoiding any PM and life has been great since I decided to quit. I hope you're doing okay too. Thanks for touching base.
     
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  11. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    I have reached 31 days! This is the longest I've gone without any porn or masturbation. I am very happy with the results of all this and I can really feel it in myself that I have changed and improved a lot. I hope others too will be able to achieve this goal and we can all be free from this addiction.
     
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  12. Absoutely bud; I can't believe I'm here too. I have NEVER in my LIFE been able to go this long without PMO. EVER. EVER.

    No amount of prayer, study, camping, retreats, vowing or making daily promises, has ever caused this result. I'm amazed. Grateful to God. Speechless.

    Let's keep it going.
     
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  13. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    Just checking in... Been a good week so far. Every day it gets easier and easier.
     
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  14. You are on cruise control man. I agree it feels easier. Have you had any stressful incidents?
     
  15. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    There are episodes of temptation when opportunities present themselves. But I try to find a way out of these situations by distracting myself with something else.
     
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  16. Vapid where u at bro?

    I know no news from you means all is good.

    Just making sure u knew that too.
     
  17. vapid

    vapid Fapstronaut

    Checking in. Had a mild ED scare over the weekend after seeing episode 1 of the latest black mirror series. The secrecy and issues between the married couple in the episode was very similar to what happens with a couple who suffers from porn addiction, although in this case it was different, but almost the same thing.

    I was affected in a way that I was relating to what the husband was going through and I saw what was happening to the wife and I felt sorry for her.

    I couldn't shake the thought out of my head and I almost was not able to function, good thing I was able to relax eventually and we were able to recover.
     
  18. We saw the same episode and it really was uncomfortable and brought up bad memories of what happened with us.
     

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