Panic. Please help me understand

There may be more porn than not on that site. It is saturated. This was the beginning of how I found out my bf was a PA...

 

There is real porn there. There are thousands actually. So many subreddits for real porn.
(If you don't want to go there and look, just type in google "does reddit have real porn").

 

thank you but I just do not care to know anymore , I am so sick of other women and nakedness- I always thought the body was beautiful thing , now I just cant hardly take being out

 

Sounds like mine.

I can’t imagine how tough it is for the ones who have a partner with really unusual fetishes. My mind recoils in terror at the idea of not only dealing with the betrayal, but trying not to be completely horrified at the content they are hiding.

 

Im about to have blocking software installed by a good friend a bit later today which im nervous and excited about.
But the software is just something to lean on, it can never be 100% fool proof.

At the end of the day he has to want to quit. That involves being honest with himself about when hes screwed up and acknowledging why he did it.

But also remember how tough it is. You cant go anywhere without seeing half naked women these days. Even the malls have advertising everywhere of beautiful women in underwear and bikinis. So just dont assume hes had a relapse every time he looks at a bikini, men are attracted to women and its a fine line between fishing and just being a man that likes females.

I do understand your concern though and i think in this case you are 100% justified. Do your best, keep him accountable and ask the hard questions.
Make yourself available for affection (i dont having sex whenever he wants) but if he wants a cuddle or tries to show affection make sure you are open to it. I know when I would try and hug my ex she would go cold and gently push me away which only pushed me more towards P when i felt lonely.
So just do as much as your comfortable with, dont be afraid to push him and ask the tough questions. But just remember you always have the right to leave if he doesnt seem like hes interested.

 

Much respect to all the women here coming together and helping each other through their partners addiction.

I see progress, to the OP, your guy has gone 35+ days without fapping, true progress! Credit to you.

I never realised that in my early days of nofap, i was 'fishing' I didn't even realise what it was until just now!

I can safely say that my last 2 relapses were down to fishing. It is a trigger after all, but I do think men can do this unintentionally, so just give some support in your normal way when it happens, hopefully fingers crossed it will change.

Porn is such an unrealistic stimulant and really messes with real life expectations of real intimacy and love. But I am happy to see that most people in this forum are slowly rebuilding their partners lives (and their own) for the better. Props to you all