Literally nobody is trying to censor you here. You're more than welcome to disagree, as I've already said multiple times. I dont think they are forced to do that either, clearly, which is why I'm telling them not to. I've seen many many of them respond that way, as if they deserve it, and I dont think they should resign themselves to that. I dont understand this at all. I feel like the precisely the opposite of what I'm doing. I'm telling PAs that they are allowed to take care of themselves. Sometimes people need help... that's what these forums are about. People should also be entirely capable of quitting porn on their own, or moving on from their spouse's infidelity on their own. And yet we are all here, seeking advice and support. No problem. I doubt that would go over well, though. Many people dont want to hear this, as is evidenced by the negative responses I've gotten. Which is totally fine, people are entitled to their opinion and welcome to share it. But hopefully this helps some people see that they are worthy of decency and dont need to resign themselves to being in an abusive relationship just because they've done things wrong and are trying to change.