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Pay an escort?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by David stone, Nov 20, 2017.

  1. David stone

    David stone Fapstronaut

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    Guys so far i ve been hard mode. 46 days no pmo ,no ejaculation. Last night i barely succeded to wake up from a wet dream before ejaculation happened. I never sleep on my belly - if i do it is almost guarantee wetdream will happen . This thing made me think that maybe my body wants to ejaculate and it would be healthy for me...and that thought led me to consider hiring sex escort. Weird connection huh? It is a bad ideea i guess but i wanted to let it out ....

    A part of me really wants to make it to 100 days with no ejaculation( folloing user HMHU who offers info about taoist teachings that say 100days no ejac. Will grant exceptional health) and another part of me keeps distracting me. Cherrs have a nice week brothers.
     
  2. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Then you'll be on your way to a hooker addiction.
     
  3. MLMVSS

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    No. Bad idea. Randomly hooking up with people you don't know is just a substitute for feeding an addiction. If you want sex, at least know and care for the person.
     
  4. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    The best healing is to have healthy sex with a woman that you care after you finish your reboot goal. That will create many healthy neural pathways in your brain.

    Connection with a woman physically, mentally and spiritually during sex is very much healthy in your healing process. Hookers are great for short term gratification needs only and can become an expensive habit.

    Stay strong! You can do it!
     
  5. Saurav04

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    Why wasting a 47+ days streak. Keep doing what you are on. Don't think of any bad ideas or alternative like hookers. The bad ideas or thoughts will fade away. Then you will be very happy that you have controlled earlier.
     
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  6. SuperFan

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    Hiring an escort would be a horrible idea. And your rationale is crazy. If you're on the verge of having a wet dream because your "body wants to ejaculate", then it will ejaculate on its own (via a wet dream) without your assistance.

    Here's the other thing--as soon as you hire an escort, you will have opened Pandora's Box. It will become that much easier to hire another one, and another. My sex addiction progressed much further than PMO, and each time I thought "I'll just try this once," I found that it was easy to go back to over and over again.

    I sit in SAA meetings with men who have lost tens of thousands of dollars because they were addicted to prostitutes and strip clubs. Don't become one of them.
     
  7. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    Well-said brother!

    I totally get the need to have sex! Most men here can relate the need to have sex with women. That’s healthy. You want sex?
    Focus on your energy in finding a girlfriend that you care and love. Totally worth the time in finding the girl of your dreams.

    Escorts really do take advantage of you. I heard too many awful stories about escorts when they jacked up prices at the last minute. Men fell into it because they are too horny and just paid the extra money anyway. It’s not good.
     
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  8. Kikobraz

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    Absolutely true, if IF you are lucky to find one. Not just women, there are plenty, but what you describe , not many. In the end 80% of the GP will find some blah woman and get frustrated and develop relapse and so on. I said it before and will say it again, Once I get over my Fapping addicting I am not discrediting occasional escorts. In the end it is a great agreement. Spend a weekend some where nice, enjoy each other have great sex and Monday morning each goes its own way. What is wrong with that? or would you rather spend the week after worrying if she is going to call you or message you or return your iMessage, or agree on what to eat or where to go out... Nah! I was married 3 times and I strongly feel that my Fapping addiction was brought on by the constant stress of having a relationship. Contrary to what most believe here, there are several ways to have healthy sex even if you are not in a nagging relationship
     
  9. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Also, unless you're Donald Trump, spending money on whores will put you financially upside down.
     
  10. Kexas23

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    Don’t do it bro.
     
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  11. ali.nf

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    Hiring an escort is just feeding the addiction. It's really not worth it, why fuck an escort. Stay on the journey and reach 100 days bro. If you really want to ejaculate or have sex your body will find a way to naturally do it. Also why pay for this shit?, use the benefits to connect with a real woman. Good luck
     
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  12. David stone

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    Thanks a lot guys. It would have been energy down the drain. I have to keep remind myself to stay stong and dont fell prey to temptation. I m glad i wrote it here cuz you made me see the situation more clear.Focusing my energy in finding a girlfriend is what i have to do
     
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  13. SuperFan

    SuperFan Fapstronaut

    Forget the girlfriend for now. Just focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

    And here's the great part: if you focus on becoming your best self, then not only will the girlfriend issue work itself out, but it will work out even better than if you had specifically focused on getting a girlfriend.
     
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  14. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    Excellent point! That’s why I’m working out more seriously for this reason.
     

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