Pay for sex

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Yassineopter, Feb 12, 2019.

  1. Yassineopter

    Yassineopter Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys
    What is your opinion about having sex for money ? is it good to try something in place of masturbation
     
  2. kcuftihs

    kcuftihs Fapstronaut

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    I mean I guess it's a notch better than masturbation in terms of healthy sex. You're still rewarding yourself for doing no work, and having meaningless sex with someone you don't have feelings for. If you keep that up, you won't have the motivation to go out and get girls like you should. The whole point of NoFap is to abstain for long enough to let your brain heal and rewire itself to crave real feelings and real interaction with real women. I have been to happy ending massage parlors a few times but have never gone further than a hand job, but I can't imagine sex for pay being anywhere near a healthy alternative. Go on hard mode for a while, rewire your brain, and earn some real tail. You'll feel much healthier and much better about yourself.
     
  3. Faceplanter

    Faceplanter Fapstronaut

    I'm definitely of the opinion MO is better than paid sex. Think about which of those two would turn off a potential partner....it probably isn't MO.\

    And, since my current view is that the deception that comes with PMO for most of us is probably at least as damaging as the PMO itself, living proudly and transparency would lead me to avoid actions that I would not like if made public. Paid sex is one of those actions for me. MO is not.

    Avoiding MO is great for lots of things, including motivation to have real life partners for sex. But, it's not great as a reason to pay for sex. In my opinion.
     
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  4. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Don't sleep with strange women! Rather masturbate. Real sex is good with your girlfriend or wife. Not with strange women on a one night stand or paid bitch!
     
  5. Infrasapiens

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    Paying for sex is like paying someone to beat a game for you, you will experience the ending but it will be unsaisfying.
     
  6. Sharksvv

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    Its not worth it, when I used to do it I felt terrible feelings of shame and embarrassment when it was over and I went to put my shoes on and leave the hotel room.

    The walk back to your car and drive home was also so demoralizing and lonely. I’m glad that part of my life is over and I’d recommend anyone to never go down that path because it can snowball and become a regular thing.
     
  7. If you want to spend money spend it on someone who likes you just as you are. not someone,who could care less about you who does it for cash.
     
  8. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    if you are more than 25 and virgin you should do that
     
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  9. neckbeards

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    I signed up to this forum due to this. I have sex addiction for sure, DON'T do it. The only days I don't masturbate are those I'm having sex and more often than not now I'm paying for it. I want to stop both completely, masturbation + 'punting'. The thing is, I know how bad seeing working girls is due to the cost and its detachment from relationship reality, so if I find myself setting up a session, I'll often masturbate to stop myself from booking someone. And in that, the cycle continues...
     
  10. phwrancesco

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    100% disagree
     
  11. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    That's ok. If you sleep with a strange woman you take her as body parts as you have no emotional connection to her. It is the most shallow connection that exists in the world. People, they have shallow opinions about sexual connections shag anything that walks and has a vagina. I accept their opinions. I would rather masturbate than sexually connect with a stranger.
     
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  12. phwrancesco

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    You probably afraid of sex, thats why you would rather masturbate than "connect with a stranger". And you are doing nothing to escape from this loop.
    so masturbating on porn is better?
     
  13. viking007

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    Escorts come with a variety of STIs that can't be avoided even by using condoms. And many of these are painful, chronic, incurable medical conditions. These include Herpes, HPV, Molluscum Contagiosum, Warts, Rosacea, etc.
     
  14. ultrafabber

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    Do not pay for sex. Take it from someone who paid for a lot of sex.

    The train of thought usually is that "if have sex with any woman i will be less of a loser (cause i actually had sex)", but in reality you become more of a loser cause you actually have to pay for sex. That's how I used to function.
     
  15. Marcelo48

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    Why?
     
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  16. Rehab101

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    If its ur curiosity and for fun, go for it and have fun. It really depends on ur mindset. Make sure u did all ur research to weight the risk and benefits tho. Always practice safe sex. If you are losing control and have bad habit, dont do it.
     
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  17. Joe92

    Joe92 Fapstronaut

    I started to see escorts at 18, it was fun in the beginning. I'm 29 now, and I don't recommend to walk on that path, it is very likely to become a habit. A habit that can ruin your life, marriage, kids, bank account, self-confidence...

    There are 4 billion women out there, build your self-confidence, be yourself and meet some of them, you could eventually learn that only a few of them bite. ;)

    To answer your question directly : If you have to chose, I'd suggest MO.
     
  18. phwrancesco

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    because being virgin at 25 is sympthon of some psychological issue witch is better to remove as fast as you can.
     
  19. SolaireofAstora

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    I agree.
    Speaking from self experience, people at that age who never had sex before tend to idealize and idolize the sexual act in a not healthy way.
    Not to mention the whole pathological and underlying shyness that supports this behaviour.
    In my humble opinion , desmystifying sex is a good way to improve one's social skill to interact with women.
     
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  20. Sardonic

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    I'm 30 and a complete virgin, I have no intention of paying for it either. I wont lie and say it hasn't crossed my mind though because it has. Every person has to come to the decision on their own about whether or not they are comfortable with paying for it. I am not, I've seen a lot of similar threads on here. I'd rather die a virgin than lose my last few shreds of self respect by doing that, but each to their own
     

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