Pedophile - explicit content (not acted on..)

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Little Prince, Oct 16, 2020.

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  1. e123

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    Mate, the first step is acknowledging you have a problem so well done.

    Now you should get into Sex Addicts Anonymous ASAP. This is the only thing that will help you. And if you're in the UK, Google Stop It Now! right now. They will give you completely anonymous support.
     
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  2. sparkywantsnoPMO

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    All,

    I need to address something for a moment please. Some of this will be as a moderator and some will be as a user.

    As a moderator:

    As a reminder, inciting violence against a person or group will never be tolerated.

    As a user:

    90+% of us are here to recover from pornography addiction. Most of the remainder are here as an affected family member. Those with addictions to content or acts that are illegal need help too. If a user is here wanting help to not engage in some acts, they should be congratulated on choosing to positively change their life, and they should be supported. If they committed illegal acts, let the judicial system handle that. Let us be part of the solution - supporting their recovery so that their are fewer victims.

    OP, I hope your recovery continues to go well.
     
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  3. Hey now. I don't believe you can make a statement like that. There is no hard evidence saying it helps let alone cures 100% of people who walk in. Honestly I don't want to know the statistic and have no plans to ever step foot in one but I have before and there's reason I did not go back even if they were very kind and warm souls yet I am not bashing it entirely I recently put some SAA books on a shopping list to gain insight from them or that was my intent I may change my mind and get different ones now IDK.

    That's my opinion that I hope is coming from a place of logic not bias.
     
  4. e123

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    Why don't you say something constructive instead of criticizing a perfectly reasonable suggestion?

    For the people for whom SAA has worked, it is the only thing that has worked. Maybe it didn't for you but countless people have gained relief from addictions through twelve step groups
     
  5. ljbjdj

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    First of all, I came to NoFap looking for someone to open the box on an issue like this and I was not disappointed. Thank you so much for your story and your encouragement to others.

    Second, I definitely agree with the media being the problem. I tried a lot of things to curb my addiction but nothing even started to help until I got rid of my social media, quit listening/reading the news, basically just shut off virtual life and started actually living.
    I'm glad someone sees this atuff the same way I do.

    Congrats on your progress and newly found appreciation for reality!!
     
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  6. Exoffender

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    Have you tried other hobbies like running, music, gardening, everything that doesn't involve computers? Worked for me. 2 years in therapy after severe cp addiction. Never touched a child but did some time in jail and am grateful for still having a family wanting to talk to me. Therapy really helped me.
     
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  7. IGY

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    I really appreciate your post sparky. Quite honestly, the last thing we should be in this community is judgmental. Your reminder is apt and nicely worded. Personally, I am grateful that I have not had to deal with this issue. Thanks again. :)
     
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  8. Exoffender

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    Pedophilia is a disorder, not a fetish and therefore can't be cured. Unfortunately. Having to live without being able to act out one's desires is hard, but possible. You even can be sort of happy at the end of the day. But the urges don't go away entirely. Talk to a therapist.
     
  9. Exoffender

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    Based on psychiatric disorders as in DSM 5 and personal experience unfortunately. Diagnosis by pyschatrists, so yes I know what I'm talking about sadly.
     
  10. Little Prince

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    @Exoffender Thank you for sharing your story and I'm sorry about what you went through but you are wrong. Therapists don't know anything on this topic, at best they can hep you diminish your struggles. I have seen in another post that you still view porn so you can't make the statement that this isn't a fetish and it can't be cured because it is and it can. Me and others have done this.
    The reason therapists can't help much is because they don't understand porn is an addiction and they try to look for logic, reasons, emotions involved in our thoughts. There is none of that just the brain tricking us to get a fix.
    I hope you take this as a positive message because you can get rid of this too.
     
  11. Little Prince

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    As a personal update, since I last wrote here, 2 and a half weeks ago, all my fetishes disappeared. I am far from free of porn addiction as my mind makes me wonder what's the benefit of this, I still have brain fog, I still have withdrawal symptoms and really my life hasn't changed much but my mind has improved. I can observe things better and can make better decisions.

    Something I haven't mentioned here. Due to my extreme use of porn and the long duration, my prefrontal cortex must have shrunk quite a lot. In order to help remedy that I've been working out and meditating. With an affected prefrontal cortex the ability to make decisions, control yourself, realise the consequences of your actions and even differentiating between good and bad are compromised. Quitting porn and other addictions is a must in order to restore this.
    Please don't take this wrong, I'm not making excuses for those that do molest children, I'm just writing this so they too can try and recover.
     
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  12. Exoffender

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    I'm sorry but where I live therapists know very well what they're talking about. They have read books like Your Brain on Porn, are aware of NoFap and know the difference between illegal and incurable disorders and every fetish thinkable. If you read carefully you will have noticed I'm not watching cp anymore, but 18+ porn. Therapists only discourage watching porn if it starts having undesirable impact on work, relationships or life in general. But I'm afraid the quality of mental health care where you live is not as good as it is over here, which is a shame really.
    Apart from that, thank you for your kind words.
     
  13. Little Prince

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    I write here so that in the future no children will be affected by this. This is the answer on how anyone can get rid of this issue.
    Success of therapists curing this is zero. Giving up porn works, you can check other posts where people have gotten rid of other fetishes. Insisting that this isn't a fetish despite there being no evidence for that is just not understating addiction. I know therapists want to help but they are all clueless. How do I know that it's not the case just in my region? I read.
     
  14. Exoffender

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    It's a shame you're so convinced about this as you deprive others who do believe in scientifically proven therapy approaches of a better life. I'm not saying therapy is the panacea but if it wasn't for my therapist I would have killed myself a year ago. I think we should try to help our friends here with whatever works for them which definitely won't be the same for everyone.
     
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  15. Little Prince

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    You have got to be kidding me. You yourself are still a pedo and don't even want to try this to get rid of this? What does giving up porn have to do with no seeing a therapist if you feel suicidal? You can do both. You are like a religious fanatic at this point. I present both points of view, therapy and self cure, and you are stuck with yours and accuse me of it.
    You have no understanding of the scientific method, there is no scientifically proven therapy to cure pedophilia. They throw things at it hoping something works. My method actually does work.
     
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  16. CodeTalker

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    I dont think that pedophilia is a fetish sadly. It may be the case for some people and in those cases I think porn abstention is the best way of resolving this issue. But for some other it's deeper than that.
     
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    Howya all these actions like avoiding media will certainly help but you wont remove your lustful heart. Jesus Christ will provide the strength to bet these evil temptations. If your willing to change you try and understand the bible and belief in the teachings science will help but is not the only answer but its your choice. Pride will deceive be careful.
     
  18. IGY

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    True, it is a mental disorder.
     
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  19. Exoffender

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    Exactly my point. Thanks for supporting this view.
     
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