Penis pump and PIED

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Longdistancesucks, Jun 11, 2018.

  1. Longdistancesucks

    Longdistancesucks New Fapstronaut

    I'm just wondering if any of you guys had any success stories with using a penis pump while suffering from PIED? If not on a success story just tour thoughts on it. My boyfriend is coming to visit me and he really wants to have sex. He has been doing nofap for a while, a couple relapses here and there. But no porn. Just wondering about it before we buy one. Thanks!
  2. Possibly...if you are both willing to use a pump then why not just do something sexy kinky instead?
  3. Immature

    Immature Fapstronaut

    So if you use the penis pump to pull blood into the penis and then slip a constriction ring around the base, you might well achieve an erection of sorts. That's how they are used for ED caused by physical reasons.

    Just DON'T leave that constriction ring on longer than 30 minutes - it stops circulation and the penis can be seriously injured.

    It can also be painful and cause retrograde ejaculation. Look it up, I can't stand talking or writing about it.

    It still won't deal with the fact that, as said by others above, the brain is damaged, and thus, the lack of real libido, sensation, etc, won't be fixed.
  4. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    PIED can take up to two years to correct...
    Pills, pumps and other things will be a temporary fix, but won't help long-term and csn potentially damage things further because of dependance.
    You yourself said "a couple of relapses"
    I'm not sure of your full story but nobody needs sex That much that if you are seeing each other and he's rebooting, it can't wait.
    Even long distance.
    I personally think a hard mode variation would be easier this way, but that's my opinion.

    However, I'd also like to point out that if he asked you about a pump that he knows he can't get hard, even with masturbation....
    Because he's tested it and now he's anxious.
    He would have a better chance abstaining and then trying to preform only with you.
    Why isn't he trying Other things to please you sexually?
    Sex isn't only penetration.
    To me, it sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.
    Or he would have offered only these.... And not something selfish (addict thinking)
    Not trying to be rude, just pointing out things other responding PAs didn't think about.
    Anyways, I wish you the best.
  5. Queen_Of_Hearts_13

    Queen_Of_Hearts_13 Fapstronaut

    @Kenzi and @GhostWriter I have so noticed this pattern on Nofap when they have PIED they never think to please the girl, it's either, "I can't get hard, so no sex" or "I can get hard, let's do it!".... what about the girl? Sex is sooooo much more than penetration.

    The foreplay, the anticipation, the teasing, sensual massages, going down on a girl, and much more can be incorporated into a sex life.
    TryingHard2Change and Kenzi like this.
  6. Why this made me laugh, I don't know. I guess it's like seeing another guy get kicked in the crotch. It's just something that makes me squeamish.

    ^ Not a joke.
    And if he DOES have an erection for more than 4 hours, see a doctor immediately. < Lame joke.

    :eek: Wait! What?

    It's sort of funny how PIED can be described in terms of who it is personally affecting. Obviously, both parties are suffering. And for me, there is absolutely nothing worse about my addiction other than the lying. (A) Not being able to have sex, (b) being a great and confusing disappointment to my wife, and (c) viewing myself as less than the man/husband I should be are all in play every day of my life.

    But at the very root of my dismay over my PIED is simply not being able to give my wife what she needs to feel like a complete woman.
  7. Ridley

    Ridley Fapstronaut

    I agree with all the posts recommending other forms of sexual activity: foreplay, massages, teasing, talking, etc. PIED seems to be a psychological issue, not a physiological one. Focusing on just pleasing your partner in any way you can is definitely the way to go, and if you don't know how to do that, then it's really fun to find out by talking about it :)

    This thread reminded me of a similar issue I was experiencing a few years ago: premature ejaculation or PE. In a way, it's almost the opposite problem. I was so focused on pleasing my partner that I started to build up anxiety about being able to please her and it would just cause me to finish way earlier than I wanted to. It became a self-fulfilling prophecy, in a way. Eventually, I just had to recognize it for what it was: a psychological issue. It was all about the way I perceived myself. Ultimately, there were two things that helped me with PE: the first was open communication about sex with my partner (a good way to start this conversation is "what do you want from sex?"). The second was just relaxing and enjoying the experience (sometimes easier said than done, but being emotionally vulnerable and communication help a lot). I know it's not the same problem, but I feel like those two things would probably help with PIED as well.

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