Penis size / Porn addiction

Wow, this is the most powerful argument against jelqing I've ever seen. I'm sorry for your situation but appreciate you posting it. If there's any way you can get your fat pad down that will at least help the optics of your length. Keeping the lawn trimmed close down there helps too.

 

I would not advise anyone to do it. It did work, at the start, gained maybe half an inch extra. But look what happened. I shattered by already below average confidence completely doing it.

I basically have to become 0 percent body fat to get the same optics as I had as a hearty but healthy big strong guy. Which in all honestly I don’t see happening unless I put some crazy effort into muscle weight gain to even out the insane weight loss I’d need to even show 6 let alone 6.5. And even then that’d be showing it all and not packing the extra hidden meat I once had

 

I dunno tbh. Maybe pulling too hard. Maybe going too much. Not sure. Did something though. I’m just trying to convince myself penis size doesn’t affect me being more or less a man in any sense at this point. I’m still naturally built, I still stand by what I believe in, people still respect and like me. Women are attracted to me, men are attracted to be my friend. I’m still just as much a man as before. Just feel bad for my woman at this point, bad I can’t do what I used to be able to, bad I affect her emotionally when I get feeling negatively.

 

If you’re chubby, lose weight.
Recently I lost weight. My size went from 7 inches to 7.5 inches.
Manscape and massage it with an oil once a week.

 

Good call

 

It isn't. It is very much possible to do so. I've done so, and will keep doing so until I get to the size I want.

It's not so much about whether it's possible. It's about whether you are willing to invest the necessary time.
Depending on your starting size, it can take years of dedicated training 3-5 days a week and between 20 and 60 minutes each session to see actual, noticable results.

But no perfectly sized dick will help you with any form of intimate relationship with a women if you don't know what's actually important for them. And for the vast majority of those female creatures out there, the dick size comes pretty far down the order, and your much better off developing more important skills first.

Confidence, Attraction, Humor, Money, Confidence, a good physique, social skills, Confidence, empathy, cooking skills... did I mention Confidence?

 

Really?

 

I'll just answer this as if you mean this, and not just ironically.

When you first date them, being a good cook is really a huge bonus, and turn on for most. Imagine our world right now. Women have become pretty independent from men. For the most part, just for survival they don't need us anymore and can easily live alone. So they don't need to learn to cook anymore, with all the really pre-made food available.

If they visit a guy for a date, they really don't expect great self-made food. But if it's there they will be positively surprised. And depending on your cooking skills, very positively surprised.

It just adds to the list of things in the beginning where she decides whether the guy gets a chance, as well as how fast she might sleep with him. Of course, if cooking is your only skill, it won't work. But if it's added to an already confident, charming and funny guy, who also takes good take of his body, that just makes it a lot easier for him to convince her to either stay the night or stay for the rest of her life, depending on both people's intentions.

 

The real game changer is to be really good at cooking breakfast.

 

And deserts.

 

A Portuguese Breakfast . . . (It's a Deuce Bigelow, European Gigilo reference)

 

I have a normal sized penis yet have watched plenty of small penis humiliation videos. I think it is a way of coping with feeling inadequate in some way. I don't actually have an issue with my penis size but perhaps I think low of myself in other ways.

Also I don't think porn helps with these problems. Because for straight porn men will have large penises. It may make the majority who watch it feel inferior.

Anyway don't get down on yourself. Your penis is fine. Just stop watching porn.

 

Yes - being able to prepare a meal (planning, shopping, preparing, attention to detail, plating, timing, taking her likes into consideration, etc) can showcase a lot of good qualities in a man. I'm not talking about grilling a burger, albeit in a long-term relationship it's valued to be able to do whatever you can, I'm talking about a real full meal from scratch.

 

Ok , im not a chef, and my foods are basically very simple and easy to cook

 

Fajitas are easy - but can look impressive. Make a bunch of toppings and it can be fun.
Drunken pasta is another winner - buy a jug of cheap red wine and cook the noddles in it instead of water. Make a sauce that has enough flavor to counter the wine. Add some italian sausage and fresh basil for color.
If you're going to make a burger or a steak - mix the patties yourself or marinade overnight. Buy a thermometer so you cook them to the right temp. Make a fresh salad on the side that you chop up yourself (not a bagged salad).

Don't make anything messy like ribs that might screw up her makeup
Don't make a soup for early dates, slurping sounds don't help motivate conversation