Permissable language usage?

It is my perception that many of us come from different walks of life and cultures/sub-cultures that language can be misconstrued for a variety of things and notions. Perhaps the best language is a simple, direct, one which doesn't provoke, set off triggers, or words that someone may have to read between the lines (lesson learned).

I like to joke around by nature, it's how I let off steam, but some people may take it the wrong way. Maybe until you feel comfortable with who you are addressing with on this forum then you can begin establishing your personality.

 

language is powerful, and i agree to have some sort of guidelines, in which they dont mimick P language and terminology, that can very easily trigger PMO

 

Just don't say it if you think it will offend someone. It's as simple as that.

 

On NoFap's forum we will, necessarily, be talking about matters sexual, often in fairly explicit terms. However, that doesn't mean we must discuss things in graphic terms. It is pornographic and triggering for some people to discuss sexual acts in the crudest language. If you see something that you think is over the line, then report it, and we'll look at it. Honestly, I don't have any set rules in my mind about it, but if you think it might be over the top, it probably is.

 

I feel that certain types of language are acceptable if it is strictly for the purposes of relating a given story or situation to put a particular situation in context.

However, we're all reasonably intelligent adults here (I hope so anyway) and I think most of us will get what you're trying to say with a minimum of specific detail and graphic language. You don't have to SAY x for us to know that you MEAN x if you're tactful enough.

 

If only we could communicate in person, which I'm confident would make this whole thing leagues better (I don't mind about the loss of anonymity).

Triggering language is dangerous. I think there should always be a conspicuous warning if you're going to mention genres of porn or something like that.

Honestly it is important to be able to talk about these things because some people have "fetishes" that seem to magically disappear with nofap and it can be important for people who are still struggling with those fetishes to know that there is recovery from it.

 

As Blue said, we are discussing and sharing something extremely personal and, by nature, sexually related.

For that matter, I don't mind people cursing and using direct language. (It's not like grandma's and underage kids are gonna read it). I also talk about sexual experiences in my journal.

Being graphic is another thing. (I had one or two posts that people found too graphic and later I moderated it).
You can be direct without being graphic. I call a dick and a pussy for what they are, if I feel like it in that context/experience I am sharing on.

Also, we are all facing a tough task and with many emotions and frustrations involved. So as for cursing: If we can't vent that frustration with fellow men in here, where can we? (Many are in the situation where they are not talking to their spouse or IRL friends about it).

I'm not gonna write "Pardon my french, but I feel a tad disappointed with myself that I was tickling my male reproductive organ slightly longer than planned bedtime while taking in the sight of rather scantily clad females engaged in rather promiscuous undertakings."
Because that's not at all how I feel and not the frustration I would need to vent.

As part of being able to manage your nofap life, if one can't stand to hear a dick and a pussy being called for what they are, one will fail pretty hard very soon after the challenge anyway. It's like a recovering alcoholic who can't even face the sound of a bottle being opened, out of fear of falling off the wagon again.
We are bombarded with sexual images and language from commercials and media every day. That's not going to go away.

I do understand the need to be careful when we are right in the middle of our journey though, and more vulnerable. (That's why I have also respected the requests to not be graphic).

Rather than being overly worried if "someone will be offended" - I also prefer to speak my mind if it seems to make sense and being considerate. And then count on people giving me feedback if it is not appreciated. (As has already happened a couple of times).

 

What about journals- is there a different code in there since you are mainly talking to yourself? I know obviously people read them and respond but it seems like it should be a safe place where you can vent if need be. That being said I went way over the line today- didn't care because I needed to. Said right on the post that I wouldn't delete it but after calming down am now willing to do so if need be.

 

Good point. I was actually mainly thinking about the journal. As a place where it should be possible to vent.
That's basically where it will happen, if it happens.
There's less need for cursing/venting when commenting in most other threads.

My own "direct language" is in my journal. There is nothing or very little of that in other threads.

 

damn... this thread is old as hell. I was 9 yrs old when this was made.

 

Lol
I wonder what these folks are doing in their lives now

 

They dont know that their thread is still being used 7 years later.