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Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by kumarach, Dec 5, 2021.

  1. kumarach

    kumarach Fapstronaut

    there is a woman that i have been talking to.she's really sweet and caring.and tbh she's 12 yrs elder to me in age.the fact that she's really charming and understanding is what i love about her.she never judges me,i told her about my porn addiction which she accepted and said she'd help me with it.i feel happy when i talk to her.
    the thing is she's pretty busy throughout the day,and she's unable to devote much of time to me,this causes me to write desperate messgaes to her which give off signals of WANTING TO TALK..........is it wrong to do so?
    i really want her to stay and i can do a lot for it.
     
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  2. jcl1990

    jcl1990 Fapstronaut

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    Are you dating her? have you had sex? How long have you known her?

    Give some more info about the background of this relationship

    It’s probably best to not be desperate for her attention, at least for your own mental well being at the very least
     
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  3. kumarach

    kumarach Fapstronaut

    i relapsed to her pics
     
  4. Divine By Design

    Divine By Design Fapstronaut

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    I'd advise you to check out the book No More Mr. Nice Guy. The thing is that love and attraction can work in incredibly counterintuitive ways. For example, taking the initiative and trying to talk to a girl can make you either extremely desirable, or extremely undesirable, depending on your approach, simply because being available is unconsciously not a desirable trait, while being confident and prioritizing yourself is often a desirable trait.
     
  5. p1n1983

    p1n1983 Fapstronaut

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    Age doesn´t matter. If a person is into you, age is not going to matter at all. Attraction is not a choice.

    Bad way to go, is like going to a job interview and tell them that you like to sleep in the bathroom on the job.
    That´s personal information that is worth sharing with another person when you are in a serious relationshio, not just a person you are casually talking.

    when a person is really into you, is going to put up with a lot of things.. but this is working agaist you, this is going to make you look less attractive. On the other side.. you are just talking so maybe she is ok talking you, so she don't care about you having this issues.

    This shows that you are not happy in your own life, so you are looking happines in another person. That's not healthy, never depend on another person to be happy, that person can dissaperar in any second.

    She have a life, that also tell me you don't have one and you trying to fill it with her.

    You are desperate for her attention. get busy, do stuff, go after your goals and ambitions and you want be that desperate to talk to her.

    This is normal, you are desperate to have her attention. You are acting really needy. This is a turnoff for most woman.

    No, this give sign that you are desperate, needy and you don't have anything going on in your life.

    Totally wrong, this is going to turn her off quite fast.

    Then start behaveing more like a man and stop been that desperate to talk to her.
    get your shit togeter, get busy. Ask her out for a date and stop talking to her until the date. Romance happens in person, not over the phone. Only use the phone to set the next date, and then leave the phone aside and get your ass busy in your job , passions, hobbies, responsabilities like she does.
     
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  6. kumarach

    kumarach Fapstronaut

  7. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Texting is one of the hardest parts of relationships in modern world. Men text too much.

    Try to not t be te one that starts all the texting, the lenght of the text you make has to be similar to hers.

    She has to text you more than you text her. Follow this last rule and you won't screw it up.
     

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