PIED and PE

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Bensgz96, Nov 21, 2017.

  1. Bensgz96

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    Hi all, first time posting here.

    Just some background information about myself. 21 years of age this year, and just got into university/college. Prior to college/university, I had no real experience with girls nor sexual encounters. I got into high-speed internet porn at a young age, since 12 if i remember correctly. PMO to porn till now.

    In college/university, I managed to have a sexual encounter with a girl. However, my dick wasn't responding. I managed to get it in for a good minute with morning wood the next morning, but that lasted a minute. I hooked up with another girl a few weeks later with the same results. I got worried and googled the symptoms and stumbled upon YBOP, and was convinced that I have PIED.

    I then decided to reboot, start date was 29 Sep, was doing real well, did not look at porn or masturbated. Fast forward about two months, I managed to hook up with another girl. However, prior to this, I relapsed, by looking at images on tumblr, but I did not masturbate or orgasmed, and exited the browser about two minutes in.

    As we kissed and cuddled, I did get erections, however, they didn't last. I have to stroke to get it erect before penetration. I was wearing a condom, and somehow it made me super sensitive and when I was about to penetrate her, I just blew my load. Got that premature ejaculation along with that ED, nice.

    I tried again half an hour later, with the same results. Just wanted to know if it was normal for guys to have to play with their little guy prior to sex or just come out raging and the boner lasts, and i'm wondering if i'm still in the process of recovery. I know the articles say for younger guys who grew up on internet porn it would take a longer time, but I don't wanna guess and judge for myself. I'd rather here the experienced members here

    Additionally, with the two premature ejaculations, would that be considered a relapse on my PMO streak?

    Any advice or comments would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
     
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  2. Buddy I have PIED too from watching porn in the past. But exactly the opposite, I get erect very soon and last for very long being erect(sometimes 30-45 minutes) but while having intercourse, i rarely ejaculate due to PIED. I have the opposite problem. And being off PMO, helps in both conditions. So, be strong and disciplined and follow Nofap is my advice.
     
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  3. Bensgz96

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    That sounds like a better deal than not being able to get it up and having premature ejaculation... thanks anyways for the encouragement. Will keep rewiring and rebooting, almost got a chaser effect from orgasm with the girl, managed to stay my hand, pun intended.
     
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  4. Sideshow606

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    Bro its normal to cum quickly after long streaks of pmo ..your dick is gonna be verrryyyyyyy sensitive because you havent used it
    Just be glad your getting hard with a girl and the sensitivity will go away ...just keep rebooting with girls ...
    If your embarrassed try a hooker for a while untill the sensitivity goes away
    Good luck bro
     
  5. Sprinter123

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    Dude i have exactly the same problem. However i have noticed that having regular sex (about once a week) whilst also completely abstaining from P and M, have really helped with the ED. Becuase my brain's getting no other source of sexual stimulation, it really kicks into overdrive when the real thing happens. The PE continues to be a bit of a problem, usually, like yourself, i'm unable to control myself the first time round. However if your partner is patient with you, just wait for a bit and try for a second time round. I've noticed as i get further into my reboot that i'm able to last longer on the second lap and even give my GF an O. Things do get better, you just have to stick it out and wait for your brain to re-wire itself. Also if you're comfortable talking about this kind of stuff with your partner then do, hopefully she'll understand and it helps to take some of the pressure off you.
     
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  6. Bensgz96

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    Thanks for the encouragement bro. With regards to the getting hard part, had to use good ole handy here to get it up, which was also the cause of me blowing my load.


    Aight, will continue to rewire. And yup, thankfully the girl i'm with is understanding. Hopefully the ED clears up soon, but from what the research says, it takes longer for younger guys who started earlier RIP.
     
  7. Bensgz96

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    Just a curious question, been getting morning wood quite consistently. I have some vivid dreams of sexual stuffs, is that a good sign of recovery?
     
  8. Scared Human

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    Sure, it's proof that your dick can work so that should alleviate some anxiety. Just keep going.
     
  9. Gewinner98

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    Maaaan, of course you are fine. If you managed to get a solid erection with a girl and just came before the entering her it means you were very aroused! Without porn! So I m sure your pied is slowly going away.
    And of course it s quite normal, especially if you never had a solid streak before. If you are not in a flatline it s absolutely ok for your dick to be so sensitive after 60 days of no use, you are a man!
    Congrats, i say it because I m sure you re doing fine. Don t relapse to porn and keep the thread updating, I ll definitely follow it as I m struggling from strong PIED.
     
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  10. Sigma-6

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    Thank you for sharing, know that you're not alone happened to me too. Tough it out brotha, tough it out your on the right path. 61 days great job.Most I've went was 25 days.
     
  11. Bensgz96

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    Update, still keeping up with no pmo since last post and tried to have sex again. I think I'm getting erections easier bodily contact and she used her hand(does that mess with the recovery?) but the PE persists. It seems better without the condom. I think it could be due to consciously pumping blood into the erection making me more sensitive. But with a condom on its so much more sensitive, I managed q few thrusts without a condom and I felt like I was repaired for a moment. Then with the condom I just came instantaneously. I was so sensitive the second round when she tried to get me hard with a handy and when I got hard and put the condom on, it was so tight that I came. Any advice? Really gets me thinking if I'll ever have normal sex and conquer my college.
     
  12. Kurenai

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    Have you tried changing the brand of condom? Normally their effect is quite the opposite. Btw, yes the source says that you will probably have to wait more before a recovery... But you seem already on the right path!
    For the pe, have you noticed how your pelvic muscle act during intercourse?
     
  13. Bensgz96

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    Ah OK, thanks for the advice was in that PMO deep, the pelvic muscles meaning the ones involved in kegels exercises, i don't think they were controlled or anything
     
  14. Bensgz96

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    Update 2: I tried sex again the next morning, no PE, but now the erection won't last, after a few thrusts it would deflate, I think the PE and oversensitivity came from not M&O?
     
  15. Bensgz96

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    Hey Guys! Success, had sex again yesterday, and was so horny that i didn't even think about my erection problems, solid no PMO, and was going strong. First time it was quick, but I was still hard went in for a second time. After lunch, we had sex again and lasted pretty long. Something i couldn't even consider, cause i couldn't keep my erection up in the first place, granted it would sometimes be flaccid again, but she would work it back up pretty fast. Tried to go for a fourth time but my dick was pretty much dead at the point of time. The PE isn't as bad as last time too, granted i do blow my load quite fast, but i believe it will get better with time. Keep on keeping on guys! I'll continue to post updates!
     
  16. Bensgz96

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    Update again, had sex recently, once again, blew my load on the first round pretty fast. The second time lasted longer, but it seems i lose sensation even when i'm inside her, but it is much better than before. When it comes to the third time tho, my dick is completely dead? Is this natural? Or is it just a sign of not complete recovery?
     
  17. Coffee69

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    Give time to your mind and body to heal man. You are still young. There is a long way ahead .. no need to really worry about how long you lasted during sex.

    I know its important for us as man to give our partner O when have sex but please do not focus just how long you manage to thrust your manhood into her. That is what porn has taught us.

    Take it easy. Your PIED will go away. I have been there and i am in a lot more worst condition when i started nofap.
     
  18. Scared Human

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    In my experience, masturbating to porn definitely causes PE.

    When I first started having successful sex (about a month ago) I felt like I could go all night, even if I hadn't had an orgasm in a long time. Then I PMO'd and I came within seconds... then after a few days, the next time I had sex I went back to my usual Sex-God self :)

    But what really convinced me of the dangers of PMO is what happened just recently. Two days ago I PMO'd, not even to videos, to pictures on Tumblr. I thought it meant nothing, but today when I tried to have sex I came in less than 5 pumps.

    So, now I see that any kind of artificial sexual simulation, especially if you masturbate to it, reactivates those porn-pathways and can have serious immediate effects. I just hope I can get back to normal again...

    Stay off all artificial sexual stimulus, even dating sites if you find yourself subconsciously trying to get arousal, and you'll be fine.

    P.S: make sure you breathe a lot during sex. Kegels also help too https://www.nateliason.com/kegel-exercises-for-men/
     
  19. Bensgz96

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    Haven't updated here for a long time. I relapsed, looked at porn without touching myself and sort of rationalized and kept on going, didn't go for long stretches at once, but kept occurring frequently. I also mo but by touch only, recently just tried to M again and couldn't stand. RIP. Welp time to reset the counter and be ever vigilant
     
  20. SirThanksalot

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    Did you try to use a Pornblocker?
    Meditation did help me a lot, made me more conscious about my
    thoughts and feelings before M.
    I typically M when i stayed up all Night, felt lonely or bored.

    “Your beliefs become your thoughts,
    Your thoughts become your words,
    Your words become your actions,
    Your actions become your habits,
    Your habits become your values,
    Your values become your destiny.”


    Gandhi

    Just keep a healthy mindset, you will succeed :)
     

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