PIED cured?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Daggertail19, Oct 8, 2019.

  1. Daggertail19

    Daggertail19 Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone,

    I haven't posted in awhile, but here we go.

    The reason I have a question mark in my title is because of an incident that occurred the other day with my girl. I have been talking to her for about 2 months now and it is going well. However, I have had PIED issues her and almost a complete loss of libido. But it is not consistent. Let me explain.

    While I do believe that PIED is an actual thing, could it be linked to anxiety and the fear that you will not perform because of a past event linked to this issue? I would imagine the answer is yes, and from my experience I think it to be true. If you look at my day counter you will see that I have not completely eradicated this habit of porn and masturbation. However I have cut back on it by 90% considering I can now go days without even thinking about porn. I think this is because I recently made it to 23 days without PM which makes it easier for me to say no to the urge. I still have my flaws, but I am only human.

    Now, the other day me and my girl did this thing where we made out for like 20 minutes while listening to music. To no surprise at all, there was no movement from my guy downstairs, but I was into it. We went to my house and while I was scared that I would not perform, the anxiety was not as intense as before. We had sex, successfully, twice. Both times I had almost no erection problems and she enjoyed it. I felt good about it too because I was able to satisfy her without sildenifel (which I have been prescribed).

    It was all my mind, I felt like I was not thinking about anything else in that moment. The reason I question whether or not I am cured, which I am probably not, is because I still don't get hard sometimes when I cuddle with her, dance with her, sometimes even kiss her. So maybe it is a time thing? more time will heal this issue? I am confident that is what is happening.

    I realize this isn't a success story like others in this thread, but it is a success to me. Keep in mind that I am still anxious that I will not perform, in fact the next couple of days after this she was giving me head, I got a flimsy erection, but when it came time to have sex I went soft. So I guess I answered my own question. But I think it is mindset and simply being into it.

    BTW I am 22.
     
  2. mattyjsy

    mattyjsy Fapstronaut

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    I've had experience with this, after years of failed attempts at having successful sex I built up so much negative emotion around sex and would worry about how I would know I was cured. After about 75-80 days in was getting consistent morning wood and when I got a random erection it stayed there for ages, I just knew I was on the way to being cured. What you're doing now is perfect for rewiring your brain to real sex, dont think about it, just get into it and enjoy the moment, biology will do the rest
     
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  3. Daggertail19

    Daggertail19 Fapstronaut

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    Yes you are so right! My first experience with not being able to perform set me on this negative mindset for a year and a half and counting. Although the mindset is better now, the thoughts are still there that I won't be able to perform. It kind of excites me to know that this issue isn't going to be forever, which is contrary to what I was fearing so much.

    Thanks.
     
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    mattyjsy Fapstronaut

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    It's like getting in great shape then worrying about whether you can complete a 5k run thats coming up. You're in shape now, but you've never ran 5k, or haven't for many years, the only way you will know if you can run the 5k is if you lace up your running shoes and hit the road. To me it sounds like your on the perfect track for rebooting, just trust in the process and keep going
     
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