PIED or anxiety? goals of nofap

Hi all,

I am doing nofap to have a healthy sex life.

I am able to get erections when not watching porn, but in person it's been a bit on and off. I have to try rather than it being automatic.

I recently completed over 30 days of perfect abstinence from PMO and didn't feel all that different.

I want to hear from someone who has had this issue and either beaten it by tackling the anxiety or through reboot. I guess my questions is, is it more caused by pmo or by anxiety?

I have heard some people get over performance anxiety by quitting PMO, but in life other than in the bedroom I am a confident outgoing social person. I think nofap has compounded anxiety as everytime I even think about approaching a girl it just enters my head "you have PIED, what's the point, you have to reboot first" when I don't know whether this is a true problem or not.

In the past year I have vastly reduced my PMO consumption, I would say averaging about 3 a month for a year. I would expect to have seen more, that is why I am not convinced my problem is (entirely) PMO based.

I am going to stop avoiding women using the pied excuse and just go for it. I am never gonna chase them or waste time but I am sick of this unhealthy relationship I have with pmo. At the end of the day it'll help me overcome my general anxiety, at which point I'm sure I'll start rewiring and that will reduce my cravings for PMO.

I think the general unhealthiness of my relationship with pmo is why I relapse in general; in all other walks of life I am very driven and productive, I workout daily and have good cardio too, I work full time and do 2-3 hours of extra side hustles a day etc etc. If I can overcome the performance anxiety I think that will help me quit PMO rather than pure abstinence and avoiding the problem.

Any advice/similar stories would be great.

Cheers