PIED. Success at last. . .sort of

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by travelling fapstronaut, Dec 27, 2015.

  1. travelling fapstronaut

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    hi guys, il be honest Iv lost count with everything that's been going on but I'm currently sat at around the day 50 mark. So a girl at my hostel I liked for ages spent the night in my bed last night. One thing I noticed was my attitude towards her, Iv been a sex obsessed weirdo for as long as I can remember, porn had taught me that women were objects, I lusted over them and objectified them, it sounds awful but it's true. When I met a girl my initial thoughts weren't "who is she?" "What has she experienced" "I want to get to know this girl and enjoy her company. All I thought was, "she's hot, how can I get her into bed", the ironic thing is as soon as I managed to get them into bed I was worse than useless as I couldn't get it up thanks to the 3-4 hours a day of hardcore porn I was watching. Pathetic.

    Iv had a few long streaks ranging from 30 days to my record of 72 days. This time is different though, I can feel a shift in my attitude. The girl I mentioned earlier has been interested in me for a while, everyone told me all the time and the feeling was mutual. But my intentions with her were not sexually orientated. I wasn't desperate to get her into bed, instead I felt more like a real man, I was confident, I knew it would happen eventually so I didn't need to pressure her, since no pmo I'm brimming with confidence, I walk taller, I speak louder, I'm just more masculine and didn't feel as though I had to make it happen quick before she moves onto someone else. Why would she want someone else? I'm the man! (Sorry if I sound arrogant but it's just the way I feel now.) instead I wanted to take my time, I wanted to get to know her, to enjoy being around her, to learn about her likes and dislikes. As I said, I knew it wild happen eventually, but when it did, it wouldn't be because I aggressively pursued her like a dog on heat, it would be on her terms, when she wanted to, and I wanted it to be amazing for her, not for me.

    Anyway il get back to the point, she climbed in my bed to watch a film last night, I felt my heart speed up as soon as she lay next to me, so I just went in for the kiss and oh my god! My heart started pounding, it was almost comparable to the feeling you get watching porn, except it wasn't a dirty feeling, it felt natural. One thing led to another and we realised we had no condoms. She got up to go to her room and get some. She was gone a few minutes but I had 100% erection the whole time, I couldn't believe it, no visual or physical stimulation for a few minutes but my heart was still racing and I was still hard, just the prospect of sex with this girl was enough, and I can't tell you what a feeling that is, it makes the whole hellish torturous process of no pmo completely worth it. Now then, here's the catch. No sexual stimulation for 50 days has left me somewhat sensitive, I came in literally a minute, which is depressing to say the least. Any experience with PE after no pmo guys? I feel like I'm almost there if I could just get over this last hurdle!
     
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  2. ItaliTrey

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    Also wondering about this as well. By the way, good job dude! They say going without PMO makes the opposite sex more attracted to you. Would you agree?
     
  3. travelling fapstronaut

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    Theres no doubt about it, i can sense that girls are more interested. Although im not sure if its because they find me more attractive or if its just because im more outgoing and easier to talk to. I feel less intimidated by girls so im sure tgat feeling is mutual and girlsfind me less awkward to be around and speak to. Either way its great!
     
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  4. jpd123

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    "No sexual stimulation for 50 days has left me somewhat sensitive, I came in literally a minute, which is depressing to say the least. Any experience with PE after no pmo guys? I feel like I'm almost there if I could just get over this last hurdle!" Hey, take it from a guy who has had Delayed Ejaculation for the past 5 years due to porn, a little PE is not the worst thing in the world! I would much rather be able to orgasm than to pound away for hours with nothing. You're conquering the demon You're replacing porn with real sexual intimacy. It's a good thing!
     
  5. Rav70

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    Lol I agree Jpd. As a woman it's exciting to see a man lose control and go fast sometimes.
    The first time should be like that. Omg! I'm irresistible! Yes!
    Now, just find a happy medium! No hours long poundings. Yikes.
     
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    Sorry, I guess pounding away was the wrong way to put it. Forgot women were on this board too:rolleyes:. I would love to find a happy medium! Thanks and it's good to know women appreciate these things.
     
  7. Rav70

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    You didn't offend me by any means. I just know the frustation of long and exhausting sex with no O from the guy. Not fun for either partner!
     
  8. travelling fapstronaut

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    Oh for sure! Im not complaining as such, would just be nice to last maybe a little longer! Thanks for the words of encouragement, it genuinely means a lot
     
  9. travelling fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the reply, its interesting to get a womans perspective on this issue. I remember stamina was never an issue before i discovered porn, i guess im striving to return to those days, my last memory of a healthy sex life. And the mild embarrassment of PE pales into insignificance when compared with the utter humiliation of not being able to get it up. Its just i actually care about this girl a lot and want it to be good for her as well
     
  10. Fappernator

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    Well i've come to realise sex is not a race and women don't particular get off to you jack hammering away for hours. When or if you feel like your going to pop, either rest it all inside her and work on other parts of the body (Don't want to go too graphical for obvious reasons) or just use the first third of your dick, two inches in is where her g-spot is, other than that just change up the tempo, be in the moment and feel how each of your bodies are responding. I did all of the above last night and i kept going for 15-20 minutes and it was the most amazing sex i have ever had, compared to my usual 2 minutes self haha!

    Also try reverse kegels as i've heard these balance out kegels and are good for PE, i also do these.
     
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    Hey if you are not already...Start kegeling, this got my erection super hard and my sensitivity a lot better
     
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  12. Rav70

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    I'm a firm believer in tantric full body massage. Really relaxes you and you can have amazing foreplay. Finish up with sex afterwards. She will love it. Trust me.
     
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    Rav70, do you have any advice on tantric massage? I don't know anything about it. If you have some sites or literature I could look over that would be awesome. We could sure use something. We're not really on the same plane right now and things are pretty intense at home.
    Thanks!
     
  14. Rav70

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    Google complete idiots guide to tantric sex. There is a PDF file from eso-garden. That is a free download. I read it.
    Now, we don't do all the tantric breathing and crap... We've just been doing the massages. Have some wine, relax, play music and take your time with each other.
    I had never given one before but I did well enough that my bf had a pool of slobber on the bed. Lol
    We always finish with sex but remember sex and o is not the main objective. It's being intimate! Sex just comes natural to us afterwards.
     
  15. Rav70

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    Advice on giving one... Don't worry about not doing it right. Anytime you put oil on skin and rub it will feel good!
    Relax! If you have anxiety issues get a little buzz first.
    Start off fairly tame I guess and work your way up. The massage on the man can get intense! Only go all the way if you BOTH are comfortable. Don't force shit cause then it will be uncomfortable!
    Try reading the manual together if you can. It's fun and you can discuss what you're comfortable with.
    My BF likes butt play. Made him question his sexuality. I never had done butt play with a man. I love my boyfriend so much and we are so close I opened my mind to the possibilities and you know what?? I don't mind doing it. Makes me feel bold and adventureous. ;)
     
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