PIED then PE and rebooting with a partner

Hi
just looking for some opinions/guidance/info on my situation and what I should avoid and what is okay during a reboot. First I’ll explain my situation....
Watched porn from being around 14/15, I had a girlfriend and had sex for the first time at age 17....sex life was pretty normal and had no real issues during that relationship though that ex did once mention that she thought I wasn’t fully erect, this never hindered sex and could always have full sex in every position so never thought too much about it, we were both happy with our sex life.
Relationship ended whilst I was 18. Went to university at 18 and got into another relationship at 19...sex life was great, never had any issues at all, had great sex all the time. Relationship ended at 22 and after that I slept with a few girls, encountered a few issues with ED but put it down to the stress caused by the break up. Met another girl and had normal sex a few times. After that I moved to another country and didn’t have sex for 6 months, PMOing pretty much every day, drinking a lot, taking lots of coke, this caused anxiety issues. Moved back and moved in with a friend and two housemates, had a one night stand or I should say didn’t as I couldn’t get it up, that said I was super drunk. Continued drug use and drinking, after a few more months I ended up getting close with one of my flat mates, one thing lead to another and we ended up making out, tried to have sex and couldn’t get it up at all, finally did and came immediately. This happened a couple of times before we could finally have sex...but even then after enjoying sex and it being okay my erections weren’t really strong enough for her to go on top, I would say around 60/70%. In between that sexual partner and now I slept with 3 girls, on two occasions everything seemed fine and on another I was still having issues being fully erect. Fast forward to my current sexual partner, had sex on numerous occasions and began to worry a lot about the strength of my erections, the relationship was off and on and continued to PMO pretty much daily once or twice, more recently we have gotten closer and see each other more and the problem seems to have gotten worse and on two occasions Shes given me head for while but as soon as I’ve penetrated I came instantly. Went to a sex therapist who led me to ybop. Did a few weeks nofap before relapsing and realised what my issue was, even when PMOing my erection would be 60/70%, though after the 2 weeks NoFap my first fap to porn and I had the hardest erection I’d had in years. Had sex a few more times and experienced PE and sometimes again not full erections. Went another 25 or so days nofap but relapsed began to realise one of my triggers was that when I was super hungover or on a comedown from drugs I would PMO 4/5 times. I’ve now gone another 15 or so days without PMO tho I did on one day try to gain an erection through touch, I did to about 60%. Ive explained to the girl I’m dating the situation and that it’s a process, she has a high sex drive and on a few occasions we have had phone sex though I haven’t M or O during this, just let her O on the other end of the line. I’ve said we wil have sex next week, I will have been PMO free for around 22/23 days. Should I have full sex, should I continue having phone sex? What advice do you have? I was thinking of using The blue pill the first time just to get me going and give me confidence so that I don’t worry about not getting hard.
Sorry if this was really long and tiresome to read but would really appreciate some guidance and advice. Thanks!!