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Please give me advice on getting rid of porn escalation

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by PornHasRuinedMe2255, Jul 28, 2022.

  1. PornHasRuinedMe2255

    PornHasRuinedMe2255 Fapstronaut

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    Desperately need advice from people who have gone through porn escalation

    I’ve been addicted since around the age of 10. I was exposed to sex far too young and this combined with the fact that I was never very social led to me spending most of my time watching porn online. It started normally, getting aroused to sexy women and very vanilla porn. My tastes were normal for a quite a long time but eventually I felt numbed to getting off to that. I then moved to stuff like hardcore sex, anal, that step sis shit you see all over pornhub, BDSM, and hentai. The past few years though it’s become most alarming because it’s crossed the boundaries of my sexual orientation. I’ve escalated to transwoman, which led to femboy when I grew bored of that, which led to full on gay porn when even femboy shit didn’t cut it. I hate this and it causes me a lot of distress. The moment I finish I’m immediately washed with guilt and most times almost have a breakdown. I know that I’m straight so this stresses me out a lot, it’s almost impossible to get turned on by sexy women anymore. I can’t get turned on at all without some form of porn, I need porn to get anywhere. I desperately need advice from others who have been there or in a similar situation. Is it possible to get back to normal? Can I get rid of these escalation induced fetishes? Is it even possible? I don’t want to be unable to enjoy anything without hardcore porn anymore
     
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  2. black_coyote

    black_coyote Fapstronaut

    Welcome to the community! The predicament you are going through is the reality of many of us here. We are all going through similar struggles.. I just want to tell you that you are not alone in this struggle.

    The escalation to disgusting kinds of stuffs is caused due to the nature of the dopamine circuitry in our brains. Once a person is hooked to porn, he needs more and more novel/gross stuffs to get him to the "high". This is because our dopamine circuitry assumes there is reward in pursuing even "more exciting" and extreme stuffs. It is due to this reason that you find "pleasure" from disgusting and gross porn. You've become so hooked and addicted that you are numb except when you are exposed to the disgusting crap you are consuming. You have been trapped and without you realizing, porn industry has managed to manipulate and exploit your primal sex instincts to their advantage.

    You have to understand that you are into this disgusting stuffs because of this addiction. You are suffering with guilt and pain. I understand how painful it is to become a slave to things you don't even want to talk to anybody...you hate yourself. you are unable to look into the eyes of your loved ones, you suffer silently all alone...

    Friend, You are a good human being who went into a spiral of suffering because of an addiction. You mistakenly believed all your life that you were a monster and damned. You suffered because you were unaware of the way suffering is caused. You have to realize that the escalation to grosser porn is bound to happen as long you stay addicted. It is simply the way our brains are wired to function. Once you realise these nuances, you'd understand why you consume what you consume and why nothing but porn turns you on.

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    The solution to this situation is to stop consuming porn altogether. It'd be worthwhile to stay free from Masturbation as well because by default, your masturbatory habits are connected with porn so when you wanna M you are gonna be lured into consuming P of any kind.

    And yes, it is possible to get back to normal. There are going to be challenges...You might face panic attacks, withdrawals, flatline, loss of libido etc as you abstain from porn. They are all signs of healing.

    I consumed crap that I don't even want to talk about. But right now I realize the stupidity of it all. I feel like I've taken out trash and live with a clean conscience.

    I wish you success, healing and redemption
     
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  3. PornHasRuinedMe2255

    PornHasRuinedMe2255 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for this reply dude. I really appreciate it. I hope that i truly can reverse this. The things I watch now used to disgust me so I hate that it’s escalated to the point where they’re now the only things that work. It’s led me into a cycle of panic and overthinking like “what if this is actually me and what I’m into” even when I know it’s not as it only started after I’d become numb to everything else. Do you have any advice on how to initially quit? It seems like this first hurdle is the hardest
     

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