Please help: foot femdom fetish ~~~~ * Possibly triggering text ! *

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  1. godsaveme27

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    So hey everyone, I am 17 years old and been real depressed lately, like extremely depressed. Ever since I was a kid I was always into feet always(even before porn). Then later on I started getting into femdom and stuff. My problem is i’ve never been attracted to sex. I’ve also really never been attracted
    to ass or tits from my teen years at least. I have flashbacks from a kid I once watched a guy get smothered with boobs and I loved it.
    I feel asexual and it really gets me sad. I want to have a wife and kids but how can I if i’m only attracted to feet femdom. I used to fap like 3 times a day for years, sometimes 2. I am really want to change and I am willing to put in all the effort it takes. Do you think taking a hard reboot will reduce my fetish and get me to start liking ass and tits and more vanilla stuff? Again I’m 17 and really trying to change my life around every guy talks about ass and tits but I never really ever jerked off to that or found it that interesting but why do I remember small things from a kid of me liking this but now I don’t and feel asexual any hope for me? (sorry for bad grammar i’m typing fast because i’m always stressed)
     
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  2. godsaveme27

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    I knew what feet were before ass and tits and that’s why I started with the feet and by the time I knew what sex was I was already into the foot fetish trap. I think I have masturbated to this way to much and just programmed it in my brain
     
  3. godsaveme27

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    sorry again but this is now my journal. I also remember I used to watch foot jobs a lot back then so I feel like back then if I knew what sex was before feet worship I would have gone down the right path.
     
  4. MuscularSherlockHolmes

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    What steps have you taken so far to get you back on track?
     
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  5. godsaveme27

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    I have been 4 days porn free and everyday I take some time to get my mind used to more vanilla porn, no success yet obviously after 4 days but I am ready to fight this off. I don’t care if my fetish doesn’t go away, I just want to be able to enjoy sex with a girl and not have to have my fetish to get hard.
     
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  7. Marigny

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    Hi godsaveme27,
    Like you, I’ve a strong foot FD fetish (I prefer use FD to not trigger anyone specially not me) that have a huge power on me. But contrary to you I was not « assexual » before my journey, I enjoyed quit vanilla stuff like tits and ass even if it never interested me before. For me, nothing but a FD fantasy was very enjoyable.

    So I tried the nofap challenge because I want to cure, or at least renounce these fetish for life. I’m now on day 68 (i think) without FD-PMO.
    Since day 45 I noticed that fetish have a less power on me and that when I see a nice girl (I try to avoid it not be trigger and because I’ve a gf), I appreacate her beauty as it is, and not in a fantasy way like before

    i don’t really know if its help
     
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  8. godsaveme27

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    thank you every piece of advice helps I appreciate it. It’s just weird I’ve never been into normal sex but I feel like that is because the first porn I was introduced too surprisingly was foot porn, but when I see girls in public sometimes just seeing one I lock my eyes on one because of how pretty she is and sometimes I get attached to girls so I am gonna try to start liking ass and tits and vanilla stuff that is my main goal of this.
     
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  9. godsaveme27

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    today I tried watching normal vanilla porn still nothing only 5 days free though so I didn’t expect to get turned on by it yet
     
  10. godsaveme27

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    I haven’t been jerking off or thinking about femdom just because i’m trying to re wire myself
     
  11. AssaultHaund

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    I went to a therapist and he helped me to get over my fetish. I used to look at girls feet at summer all day and felt like a perv.
    I do get an erection if I watch porn, but its iay better to know that you can control this sexual behavior.
    I suggest that you should do NoFap for a while and check if your fetishes become less powerful.
    Hope it will.
     
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  12. godsaveme27

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    thank you brother we’re you always into watching normal porn or were you into foot porn?
     
  13. AssaultHaund

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    I never watched notmal porn. I hated it.
    I wanted to watch foot and femdom videos(not bdsm , i dont want to trigger anyone so i can tell it if you want to talk privately).
    I just wanted to feel controllable.all my childhood i i wanted to be humiliated by girls, thought they were superior to me. I even had "sadist" girls that loved to hit me and I just loved it.
    I transmitted these emotions to porn.
    I still have these emotions, and probably I they won't disappear anytime soon, so I just stay out of porn, Don't look at girls feet and don't fantasize about it.
    Hopefully it will get better.
     
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  14. Marigny

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    Hmm, I'm not sure that watching normal porn can help you. I think that even if you force you to look at normal, it will lead you to watch foot porn. This is the case for me because I could not control my behavior
    I recommand you to make the nofap challenge, 90 no PMO hard mode, or more. No fantasy, no watching girl feets in street.
    It will be very hard, but after a while (I hope that'll happens for you like I hope it will happen for me), your brain will reboot
    In any case, this is the promise of nofap
     
  15. godsaveme27

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    yea that’s the goal, I understand how hard it is to 100% get rid of it so really I just want it so I don’t need it to get hard during sex i’m trying to take a break to re-vanilla myself
     
  16. godsaveme27

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    that’s all our goal we got this. I’ve never been so motivated before though so this time i’m not giving up
     
  17. Kilrunio

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    I think foot fetish is one of the most common, I think its possible to own it, whether you want to cuddle, kiss, lick, suck on feet/toes. Lots of fun things can be done, foot rubs, painting toenails, shoe shopping, shoe fucking (her wearing shoes while you fuck), foot jobs etc. You can make it sexy and romantic, start with the feet, use oils and cremes, or just kiss and tend to her from feet to legs, ass, back, shoulders, arms, hands, all of it, go for tits/pussy, do it all. Appreciate every part if you like. I own my foot fetish as i used to be super shy but no more, I think its sexy and a real man can appreciate that.

    I totally get that its hard to be turned on by other things when having sex, but I think the male brain is easily manipulated and brainwashed, If i jerk off to a book enough times that book can be my only turn on. I think we can sort of re-wire our brain by cumming and jerking off/being stimulated by certain things, like I noticed it helepd when i watched regular porn, or stuff, and recently i noticed that even though i never cared for a girls ass...like wtf why would I? Now...I really do. And I intend to rewire my brain this way, and also imagine dominant scenarios where the girl is submissive - girls like to please. So I think you can get to be turned on by tits/pussy, maybe you like lingerie or some fabric like satin/silk/shiny, lace etc?

    For me pretty much anything of a girl turns me on, and i notice all details from nail polish to lipstick to lips, to nail lengths, feet etc.

    One thing I know at least I can tell you is if you focus on not wanting to be attracted to it you´re still focusing on it.
    Like a guy once said, he parachuted, and he was on a big green field, with only one muddy puddle a tiny one, all he thought about was "Just dont hit the puddle" and where did he hit? Yes the puddle, he realized he had been focusing on it and thats why he landed there.

    I suffered alot from alot of tics and OCDs too and I noticed when i focused on other stuff and didnt focus on fighting them - thats when they went away and i could do other stuff.
    I sometimes think "please i dont want to do this mistake" and i make that mistake, but what i should had done is focus on doing whatever is the opposite of that mistake - its the same thing? Yes but one thing is focused on not doing it - the other focused on doing whatever positive thing it is.

    Thats why when you tell someone "Go shop for me but just don´t buy the green bottle, any of the others is fine"--- what do they bring? The green bottle you told them NOT to bring.."you said something about green"...This happens because "not" is a hard word for our brains to understand.

    It´s so fascinating, the more we are aware of all this the better chances we can fight it.
     
  18. godsaveme27

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    thank you, I am completely fine with my foot fetish. I just think it has gotten to far to the point where even im unfomtorable from it. All the porn fried into my brain has really changed me. If I can have the fetish and get turned on by ass and tits ill be fine. I really do appreactiate your words as they are helping me on this journey. I am 9 days in NoFap and have been changing myself. I am now trying to get buff and I am trying to discover my real self by exploring the world. Luckily I have a really good amount of friends so being around them helps me.
     
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  19. godsaveme27

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    because right now I just dont get anything from watching sex my dick barely moves, it has before but I have to think of a specific detail (like I try to imagine the feeling of the dick going into the pussy).
     
  20. jt850

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    Porn isn't healthy no matter what it is. You can't brainwash yourself from one fetish to another. A MAJOR thing people get wrong is that healthy sexual people watch heterosexual porn. Healthy sexual people do not watch porn at all. If you are asexual and you watch feet femdom videos, those are 2 seperate issues. If I watched gay amputee midget videos, would that make me a gay midget amputee? No. It would make me a person who is allowed to identify however I please sexually who also has built up a particular fetish because P use somehow lead me to it. Don't let your P use determine your sexuality.
     
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