Please help: foot femdom fetish ~~~~ * Possibly triggering text ! *

i realize i stopped fatasinzing with the girls of porn videos, but i fantasize about foot fetish stuff and vanilla sex with real girls.

 

Hey, I'm in the same boat as you. I have some advices for you.

1. There is a 50-50 chance vanilla porn will never turn you on.
2. But once you start doing NoFaP and get rid of femdom and porn addiction, the thought of having sex will start to excite you and when you will imagine fucking a girl, you will get hard (atleast I do even when i hump on a pillow while imagining having sex)
3. Remember. When you will start NoFap, you will relapse many times. So keep in mind Masturbation is not the main problem watching porn is the main problem. I will say don't even watch vanilla porn for a month or two and just relapse to your imagination if you can't resist.
4. And 90 days is not the main goal for us. Take it like that, if you are watching porn fir about 5 years now. You have to give it atleast 5 months of hardcore NoFap to reprogramme your mind and truly get rid of you foot fetish.
5. You can't completely get rid of foot fetish so don't attempt for that. I know you don't even want to (I too love my foot fetish) But still.......
6. Till then good luck. Even I don't know how to get turned on by vanilla stuff so we have to just try everything and see what works. Just a matter of time.
7. I forgot to tell I'm 5 weeks in hardcore Nofap so far. And yes this is my longest streak so far and I have relapsed 10-15 times before that

 

Dude chill. Dont get too hard on him. It's demotivating for me too

 

You are so wrong brother.

1. First, It is not masturbation addiction it's porn addiction. Masturbation is just the way to control that sexual urge while watching porn. Don't trust me? Good. Go masturbate for 1 month with no porn at all and then we will talk about it.
2. I'm not that big of a porn addict. I'm 18 now and I started watching porn when I was 15. I'm already in my 6th week of NoFap

CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVES

 

Yeah I agree. Associate all this to DISGUST can help. But still we are just figuring out what works and what not.

 

How could femdom made you gay ?

It's simple, as you have got femdom fantasies that have started with a very simple thing to unlimited things is the same way your mind processed to tell you that you are gay. But you are not gay and you are not yourself with all these femdom fantasies.

It's tough yes. But here are some points I would recommend you to consider:
1-Treat your issue as a Masturbation addiction, as a whole thing, not as Femdom, or any other kind of fetishes even if that is what got you hooked since you start masturbating. When you treat your issue as a masturbation and a whole PMO addiction, it will become easier for you to make strategies to avoid PMO. Instead of saying "this is alright and this is not" you will just cut the whole rope that leads you to PMO.

2- You will need to take extra efforts to treat femdom fetish, and this is by always reminding youself that this is not you, that you are a man, and that we all are "human beings" who are equals. Always enlist the positivities of avoiding such fetish. For example; 99% of females are submissive no matter how much they try to tell you opposite. And that life with a partner who shares with you love, care, and responsibility can not be compared with a life that is full of enslavement and hate and life loss and destruction. When it feels things are confusing, do not think much, just know and believe in one thing, that this kind of addiction is wrong as a whole "edging, sexting, masturbation". And Femdom as a fetish is just totally wrong and is the false way no matter how much your brain tells you it is not.

3- Do not edge, do not fantasize, if you are able to control edging your struggle will be much easier with this addiction, and you will not be confused whether you are this or that, whether you want this or that.

4- Read and keep studying and taking notes about rebooting articles, and repeat them when you have finished them. At least once a day, give it some time. This will increase your awareness and willpower to say no.

5-If you use social media and it was a trigger for you before, then cut it permanently, it will help

Keep fighting!

 

May i ask how are you feeling on your 6th week? DO you see any positive inside you??

 

Do not care about it much, try to ignore these thoughts

 

HOCD?

 

Here you go

1. I don't feel lazy anymore. Bit I still procrastinate
2. I don't feel sleepy 24/7 anymore
3. I am experiencing wet dreams for first time in my life and it feels so good.
4. My intellect power has increased. I can memorize things easily and solve difficult problems with ease.
5. I don't fantasize that much now. Although whenever I do, I still fantasize about femdom only.
6. I don't feel sad or depressed anymore but neither do i feel energetic and excited all the time. It's neutral.
7. I started to enjoy some comedy shows that felt so much boring due to pmo depression.
8. That's it for now