Please help - I want my life back

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Tehmastera, May 12, 2019.

  1. Tehmastera

    Tehmastera New Fapstronaut

    Hi all,

    I don't fully understand what's wrong with me - it has been about 7 months that my sex drive is at an all time low and that I've had ED problems. This isn't just during sex but during solo masturbation itself, my penis will reach maybe between 70% and 90% of hardness but won't get harder. I don't think it's porn addiction, I mean I watch porn every second or third wank but I've never thought of porn as something I NEEDED to watch to get off. I'm 25 years old and before now sex had never been an issue for me, I've always been rock hard, have wanted to have sex with everything that moves, and am successful in finding sexual partners, but this sudden change has honestly terrified and confused the shit out of me so I'm coming to you all to hear your thoughts because I'm tired of feeling this way. I'm in desperate need of support.

    A bit of background on what I think it could be:

    • For the past two years I have SOMETIMES had premature ejaculation issues during sex, it was embarrassing when it happened but it never affected my erection
    • Mid 2018 I was starting a relationship with a girl and when we had sex for the first time I had my first ever bout of performance anxiety, I couldn't get it up - ever since then every time I have had an erection I have always checked how hard it felt
    • I am very unmotivated at work/university and it is a lot to handle, I feel like maybe I'm burnt out/minorly depressed?
    • I haven't found a girl I truly care for in about 3 years, is it possible that sex has evolved in to a thing of emotion for me? But why would this affect my erection during masturbation??

    Any help would be greatly appreciated guys, I'm desperate for any help, I just want my life back. If you need more info please ask!!!
  2. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

    Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

    The obvious thing to suggest to you is to see a doctor, to find out if there is anything physically wrong. If not -- if you are otherwise healthy -- it seems like simply giving yourself a rest can't hurt. Beyond that, there could be something else at work psychologically, and that too would require a professional.

    This site can help you give yourself a rest from porn and masturbation. If I can help in any way, let me know.

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