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Please help (Urgent), Can NoFap and a Reboot fix these issues. I don't want to Relapse!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Inchristidefeatthis, Aug 5, 2020.

  1. Inchristidefeatthis

    Inchristidefeatthis Fapstronaut

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    I am almost getting discouraged cos I see no improvement or specific testimonies of people having these issues fixed and it's making me want to relapse. I have been on no PMO for a month now and nothing has changed. Although I let my eyes view instagram girls some times.

    Please Can these issues be fixed (summarized) :

    1. PMOing for around 9 years (i'm 25). Always used left hand as a result my penis slants a bit to the left when erect and sometimes when flaccid - This doesn't bother me as long as the other issues could be fixed

    2. Used to start masturbation several times without first getting a hard on.

    3. Masturbation frequency: 3 -4 times a week many times

    4. My main issue : Need physical stimulation to get a hard on. I would only get hard via physical stimulation. Once I get hard, if I stop the physical stimulation with my hand, my erection goes away immediately. Also now, erection hardness is not 100%, more like 60%

    5. Can’t maintain erection for more than 5 seconds without continuous stimulation.

    6. I'm now 25. When I was <20 years, I had rock solid 100% erections and the angle was very straight and perpendicular. Now apart from not getting fully hard until I stimulate with my hand, when hard, it's not nearly as hard as when I was <20 yrs and the angle is not perpendicular or straight anymore. It's far weaker and less than a 90 degree angle

    7. I'm a virgin and I plan to wait till marriage for real sex. I plan to marry very soon though. Can I Heal before I have sex in marriage without having real sex beforehand? I am resolute on only having sex with my GF when married. A mutual religious decision. Is there any case where one heals before real sex, and can know it or feel it?

    8. I also don't get morning wood anymore as i used to before and even if i do, it's like 20% hard

    Please can anyone help me on these questions? I am really depressed when I think of my issues and the fact that my soon to be wife might be disappointed with me.

    Thank you
     
    Last edited: Aug 5, 2020
  2. DonSturdioRazor

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    Hey,
    Don't panic! You're going through a flat-line. Since your brain is wired to get off to porn, during the unwiring process the junk won't do much for a while. Stay off instagram!!! That will lead you to relapse.

    No matter what, I guarantee that relapsing isn't going to solve your problem - it's going to make it worse.

    The most common number I seen thrown around to start having normal function again is 90 days.

    3-4 times per day is very frequent. The male body isn't designed to sustain that amount of ejaculation.

    You're still young so your body can still regenerate for the most part. I would guess you can expect nice strong morning wood again around day 70 or day 80. But you probably won't have full function again until day 135ish. At that point though you'll basically be as good as new.
     
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  3. Inchristidefeatthis

    Inchristidefeatthis Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much. I don't think i'm in a flatline yet thought as i still have urges. But the issue that bothers me most is erection strength and not being able to sustain erection until i stimulate with my hands. Thanks again. Seeing someone with my issue that got healed would greatly encourage me
     
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  4. Inchristidefeatthis

    Inchristidefeatthis Fapstronaut

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    Thank you. Not 4 times by day though, more like 4 times by week. But I understand you. I'm at fault

    Thanks. I have been thinking of this. I plan to go cold turkey for about a year though. We can definitely work around postponing the marriage a bit as we still are in other business atm. So yeah, I am planning on going on a long stretch to heal this.

    The issue is whether my issues are permanent or can be healed. I also want to have a fufilling relationship with my wife and not all dependent on sex as you said. My cold turkey period should heal/reboot me in this aspect.

    I'm just concerned my erection strength and inability to sustain an erection without my ongoing stimulation with my hands can never be healed. This makes me sad.

    Thanks a lot for your contribution. I really appreciate it.
     
  5. SoaringEagle

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    Yes you can heal and solve your problems.
    How much time will it take? No one knows. It depends on your willpower, health, habits and so many things.

    If you can continue your streak non stop (cold turkey mode) you will speed up your healing process.
    Reboot is real!
    The hard part is actually quitting, some people with enough willpower can do it. Others can struggle and will have relapses, the more you stay away from P the faster you will heal.
    But if this is your first time quitting, expect quite a ride, you might encounter depression and withdrawal symptoms and you might not. But the overall improvements are real. But it has ups and downs.

    But when is your marriage if I may ask, how much time do you have?

    Edit: sorry just saw the other post. Dude you will heal and you have time. Just try not to relapse.
     
    Last edited: Aug 6, 2020
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  6. Risho

    Risho Fapstronaut

    You are on the right track but it take time just tell me you have wasted for over a decade and now expecting to recover in what one or two months.
    No buddy it take a lot of time to recover from all of symptoms you have stated minimum it will take six months to become fully functional if you reboot properly with moderate exercise.
    From point 4,5 and 6 you have PIED again it will take 4-6 months of rebooting to completely recover from it.
    from 7th point it is a great decision but at least after 6-8 months you can be able to have sex.
    So please concentrate on your health and do rebooting you will definitely succeed.
     
  7. DonSturdioRazor

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    I was masturbating to porn a lot when I was with my first girlfriend in college, and even though we dated for 6-8 months, I never ejaculated with her. Like, we had sex a lot, and I got hard, but I never was able to finish. It was a serious bummer for our relationship, and our relationship eventually could not survive it.

    I managed to cut back the porn use and eventually after a solid 90 day streak (in which I only masturbated once, and not to porn), I received head from a different girl, and it was the most wonderful experience ever, and I ejaculated. I was so overjoyed because I had never ejaculated with a real woman before (let alone from non-v sex). It was super worth the wait. And she was super excited too because I couldn't contain myself and I was gushing about it to her - "I did it! I did it!" and the excitement was contagious. Her response was, "I really like you!".

    I know it's not exactly the same as your experience, but I can at least relate somewhat! It's tricky to know how long it'll take exactly, but it will definitely be worth the wait. :)
     
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  8. Inchristidefeatthis

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    But do you think I could fix these issues by abstaining totally for as long as 3 years?
     

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