Please Help...Why shouldn't I just quit quitting?

I don't think you should see a relapse as a failure. Every time I relapsed I knew the time I spent away from porn had built up my self confidence and reduced my anxiety around people. I just felt I wanted to connect to people more. 5 days is really good and you should be proud that you have gone so long. Every time you put a streak together you are getting stronger.

My only answer to why you should do it is that I believe a man should spend his time doing more interesting things in life. But it does take effort. I know when I started this process I used to sit around the house thinking well what should I do now with my time. I got so bored until it twigged that all this time I have free I can now enrich my life with things that interest me. And by not watching porn the other things in life began to have more colour and life.

Please though dont be too hard on yourself you need to nurture this new habit. It takes time.

 

Don't give up. Porn promises to be a sexual outlet for those without alternatives, but what it really does it make you crave more sex. It makes you more lonely by making you think about sex all the time, which is not ideal when you're single. Even if you never find someone, you're more miserable with porn in your life.

Also, the mindset of "I'll be alone forever anyway, so why not" is a self-fulfilling prophecy. I do relate but I've come to realize that it's a lie. I told myself the exact same thing for years, that'd I'd be alone anyway, so what did it matter? But it's not true. It not only matters to the hypothetical future woman, but it matters to you in your single life too. But even if you are going to be single forever, your quality of life will be waayyyyy better without porn.

 

I too have spent time wondering when will I ever meet a woman and have my next orgasm. Who knows what the future will bring? What I have decided though is that I am definitely not going back to where I was, sitting at home in front of my laptop jerking off to porn once or twice a day. Porn and masturbation are great if you want to live in a fantasy world inside your head. It will fulfill basic sexual urges and provide a modicum of gratification. But by taking part in NoFap I have learned that masturbation and porn were inhibiting me from going out and trying to meet real women and develop real relationships. I have completed 90 days and it's only now that I'm coming to the realisation that I need to start putting more effort into finding a woman. There may disappointments and it may take time for me to strike it lucky, but I know I'll be happier in the long run if I stay off masturbation.