Please i need help

[Shawarma420]

Hello to everyone, first of all let me apologise for my bad english because is not my native lenguage and i don't really know if this is the right place to post this because im new in the forum.
I been in the shadows reading all kind of stories about porn adiction, flatline etc.. untill i finally decided to join the comunity.
I started my journey 40 days ago, that's right, one day i discoverded nofap and decided to give it a try, i been watching porn since i was 14 and im 28, now (this is my first run, never have a relapse) the thing is i don't think is really working or perhaps im in flatline, i really don't know. I don't really miss porn, in fact i haven't watched porn since i started but i been seeing this girl and when the time comes to have sex i Just can't get Hard, could this be PIED? I forgot to mention that im a virgin (its so shameful to admit this) but its true, i have had my opportunities but i always manage to screw it because is always the same, i Just can't get Hard with a girl, i mean i manage to have weak erections but that's it. All this years i been in a state of numbenss, always watching porn and masturbating and smoking weed and now i finally decided to do something about it but i fear that maybe is too late, i think that i fucked my life forever.
So i decided to stop watching porn, stop masturbating and stop smoking weed (because that was basically all i was doing all this years) and focus in improve other aspects of my life, i have a job where i have the chance to met a lot of women but i never try to do so because i know that i Will fail when the time comes. Im writing all this because a need to get it out of me, i don't know if i will ever get better, i don't know if im ever be able to be with a woman, i don't know if porn fucked my life for ever. Im 40 days in and seriously thinking to relapse, i think that this could be flatline, i mean sometimes i feel like watching porn but im not even Hard and my Dick looks like is dead, only when im with this girl making out and cuddling manage to get weak erection but that's it. I don't know man, is Just like i dont even care anymore. First weeks was all fun, feel energized and all but now is all depression, numbenss and emptyness i dont even know if i should continue this path.

 

[Master Builder]

Hello to everyone, first of all let me apologise for my bad english because is not my native lenguage and i don't really know if this is the right place to post this because im new in the forum.
I been in the shadows reading all kind of stories about porn adiction, flatline etc.. untill i finally decided to join the comunity.
I started my journey 40 days ago, that's right, one day i discoverded nofap and decided to give it a try, i been watching porn since i was 14 and im 28, now (this is my first run, never have a relapse) the thing is i don't think is really working or perhaps im in flatline, i really don't know. I don't really miss porn, in fact i haven't watched porn since i started but i been seeing this girl and when the time comes to have sex i Just can't get Hard, could this be PIED? I forgot to mention that im a virgin (its so shameful to admit this) but its true, i have had my opportunities but i always manage to screw it because is always the same, i Just can't get Hard with a girl, i mean i manage to have weak erections but that's it. All this years i been in a state of numbenss, always watching porn and masturbating and smoking weed and now i finally decided to do something about it but i fear that maybe is too late, i think that i fucked my life forever.
So i decided to stop watching porn, stop masturbating and stop smoking weed (because that was basically all i was doing all this years) and focus in improve other aspects of my life, i have a job where i have the chance to met a lot of women but i never try to do so because i know that i Will fail when the time comes. Im writing all this because a need to get it out of me, i don't know if i will ever get better, i don't know if im ever be able to be with a woman, i don't know if porn fucked my life for ever. Im 40 days in and seriously thinking to relapse, i think that this could be flatline, i mean sometimes i feel like watching porn but im not even Hard and my Dick looks like is dead, only when im with this girl making out and cuddling manage to get weak erection but that's it. I don't know man, is Just like i dont even care anymore. First weeks was all fun, feel energized and all but now is all depression, numbenss and emptyness i dont even know if i should continue this path.

You need a much longer time. At least 90-180 days. Full reboot takes a whole year for most people.

Does it seem logical to you that you could reverse all damage frim this addiction in merely 40 days compared to 14 yeara of abusing your body and mind?

In weightlifting you need at least 1 month to gain 1-2 kgs of muscle. Immagine you were fat, before you gain that first kg of muscle, youd need at least 6 months of losing all that fat! Then only you can build muscle.

This is the same, you need 3-6 mo ths to reverse the damage, then you can start developing yourself at a heightened pace.

Just jeep going brother! Give yourself time and already focus on healthy activities such as healthy food and gym, meditation, reading and learning new skills.