Please tell me is this weird or normal?

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  1. Millenial

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    Whenever I masturbate, I hardly ever think about women I know currently in my life. I always think about women I don't know anymore .... or women that I have seen but don't know at all.

    In the past, whenever I had a girlfriend or was getting on very well with a girl ( very rarely ) - I never thought about her when I masturbated, it felt somehow disrespectful. It was like I was ruining some perfect idea of purity and love.

    It seems weird to not masturbate to women you have a chance of having sex with, and to think about random other women instead.

    Be great to hear from anyone else who does this, or who can shine some light.

    Many thanks. :(
     
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  2. Lexie

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    I'm a female but I Totally get what you say, I personally never masturbated thinking about the people I know in real life because I found it weird. I mean it's a little embarrassing to look at someone and think oh yeah yesterday I jerked off thinking about you lol. I think it's not weird at all
     
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  3. Lexie

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    It's not weird that you do this***
     
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  4. Millenial

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    Thanks that is great you understand. :).

    Do you think it would be better if we did masturbate to people we know and fancy and have a chance with? I am not saying it's a good habit but it might be better than thinking about people we don't know at all.
     
  5. Lexie

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    Umm to be honest I never thought about it before. I don't think it really matters but if you feel weird you can try thinking about people you know. Thinking about people we know sounds healthier and closer to reality but still masturbation is masturbation and it's better not do it at all
     
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  6. Millenial

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    You are a woman. Tell me, let's say there's a guy in your life and you both like each other and are flirting. Would you mind if he was thinking about you when he masturbated or prefer he was watching Pornhub? Personally I would be very pleased if a woman was masturbating while thinking about me.

    Sorry if it's a rude question - and yes I totally agree no masturbation is best but for me that's unrealistic, I need to do it at least once a week.
     
  7. Lexie

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    Don't worry it's not a rude question. Now that I'm thinking about your question, I have 2 answers. 1) I personally don't wanna KNOW if a guy masturbates thinking about me, even the guy I like 2) but I kinda like it if he thinks about me, because it means he really likes me
    I know, it's a little confusing lol
    In conclusion, I think I would like it more if my partner thinks about me rather than other girls
    I hope this is the right answer and you are not confused
     
  8. Millenial

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    Thanks that is really helpful :) - I'm really gonna try and think about women I know when I masturbate from now on ( but obviously not tell them ) . For too long I have been 'too respectful' and I think women secretly hate that.
     
  9. Lexie

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    No problem and good luckkk:)
     
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  10. SovjetOnion

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    I don't think it's weird either. I think you enjoy the "chase" a lot. You seek what's hard to get.
    Once you have some connection with someone, it's indeed really hard to have lust of them because you are more in touch with their personalities. I think many people have this to be honest.
     
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  11. hydroxide

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    My advice is please don't think about women you know when you masturbate. It's good to think about them at other times, but definitely not when masturbating. You don't want to start thinking perversely of them, or see them in the manner of "I had a pretty good fap session with her...". And then you talk to her and are supposed to act as if it's alright? I think there'd be hidden feelings lingering inside you while you talk to them, and it will definitely affect your interactions and feelings towards them.

    About the "too respectful" part. I think what it means is women want someone who's confident. It's a problem when you're to scared to say what you believe in, or you try too hard to make her like you, and end up seeming like you're thinking "will she like this? will she like me?". Be strong, and don't be scared of that tiny little bit that you don't do exactly what she "likes".

    Yet, being respectful is good. Don't be an asshole, and definitely NOT a pervert who faps to her and then talks to her as normal.

    Not saying you're bad or anything, just don't want you to make some sort of mistake that harms you socially and mentally. Hope this helps.
     
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  12. Millenial

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    Thanks for your considered reply. Hopefully it is clear that I'm not saying it's OK to be a creep.
    What I'm talking about here is masturbating to women I am dating/who I am sure fancy me a bit but have not yet had any sex with. I am just trying to connect masturbation with real life in a healthy way.
    I totally agree that this could easily make social interaction with the woman more difficult, but what is the alternative? Masturbating to women I don't know and 'thinking perversely' of them instead - how is that any better? Never masturbating is just not possible for me ( although I am reducing it ).

    At the moment I don't even think about the real sex ( not much ) I have had in the past when masturbating - surely that's weird, It's like I've totally seperated real sex from masturbation.
     
  13. Hi bro, no masturbation is possible.
    There are lots of techniques, including tantra and semen retention.
    I found really benefit in my life with stop M
    Confidence, energy, positivity... I found it very enlightening.

    Goodluck for you bro :)
     
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  14. I have done that many times. I think it is normal
     
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