I'm so sorry I didn't see this until now. I haven't been on a lot the past week or so. Are you okay? I'm sorry that he gets defensive - That's so hard to deal with. I really wish some of these PA's could understand that being clean isn't enough. They have to help us repair what has been broken. But they seem to think that everything will go back to normal when the PA is gone. (which it never truly will be - abstinence does not equal recovery) Hope you're alright, darling. Feel free to PM me on the conversation we already had going.