Pls explain to me how do you fight the urges neither it weak or strong?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by IWannaHakunaMatata, Aug 13, 2019.

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  1. Hi, i keep relapsing recently. Feels like i can't keep away from porn. I keep choosing to watch porn because i feel very want to watch it and fapped to it because it feels so good to my brain. after i watch porn and masturbated and even orgasm to it i feel like my head is like warm, and i feel hard to focus, got a little dizzy to. When i ride my motorcycle feels like hard to control it. And also i don't know if this is because of porn or just my mental illness that i affraid to talk to women, i got anxiety. And also i don't this is because porn or what that feels like i am becoming less good-looking.
     
  2. dzigi

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    My only advice can be that you need to embrace urges. That's something normal and they are never going to disapear. It depends only on do you want to become alpha male or you are going to relapse! Choice is yours
     
  3. i had this over the past week i relapsed and then i was in a cycle, you need a mantra to destroy your urges. such as i hate porn, i don't need porn, i don't need to masturbate and keep repeating until your urge disappears i just posted a thread on this and its working for me.
     
  4. bigboibez

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    please change your lifestyle so that you have many things to do with yourself and you feel no need to PMO
     
  5. TheGambler

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    Very well said, we have to become Men. I imagine everyone on here has been a man-child for some time or this wouldn't be a problem.
     
  6. hubbawulf1234

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    My urges and ability to counter them ebb and flow. I've found that when I haven't slept well It's harder to resist my urges. I run my own business so there's time the stress gets the best of me. This past week or so has been really tough. I'm trying to figure it out myself....
     
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  7. ThunderWings386

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    I just recently caved after going 7 days without it. I will admit I was pissed because I wanted to go through the entire month, I wasn't even going to reset it because even though I fapped, there was no porn in front of me. However, I did make mistakes that did trigger it so I decided to be the bigger man and reset it, as much as I didn't want to. In fact, your reason for fapping is why I quit to begin with, what's happening is that your brain is hardwired to porn because it gives you that sort of "high" or "feel good" moment. When you resist it, it sort of makes your brain go a bit haywire because you're now cutting your brain off from it's source of that "high" which makes your brain desire it even more. This is why quitting an addiction can take a long time, because you're cutting your brain off from the drug and working on rewiring it so that it doesn't desire that drug anymore.

    What you need to do is find ways to take your mind off of it, do other things that can still make you feel good without fapping. For example, I go to the gym and until today, my workouts in the morning helped me endure those 7 days. Reason why is because not only did it make me feel good because I was putting my time to good use but it was also giving me that adrenaline rush which is similar to the rush I would feel before and during the fapping. That being said, the reason why I caved today is because when I exercised today, I wasn't pushing myself, I wasn't fully at the gym (physically but not mentally), and I left feeling like I didn't do as much as I should have, I left feeling like I didn't accomplish anything. With this, I didn't get that same rush, I didn't feel good about anything I just did and I left the gym feeling...nothing. This just simply means that tomorrow, I start fresh and new with a solid reminder of why I go to the gym, to improve myself inside and out. I actually have another activity in my life that I've been trying to get myself to do (drawing & story writing), maybe I can try forcing myself to do that since I do love it and I really want to do more of it.

    "Don't let 2 minutes ruin your 24 hours"
     
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  8. I was but it don't for me
     
  9. Hikerboi780

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    This is quite accurate in my experience too. I haven't been to the gym recently, and when I do go, I always feel like I am not in it fully. It is as if the exercises become a check-list and instead of doing them with gusto I end up just doing them. Without a care. Without a worry. This upcoming week might be hard to keep up my own gym schedule, but I am hoping that I am filling my time with enough to make it through the week. Even the weekend might be a little tough for me.
     
  10. Infrasapiens

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    Stare at the sun, the pain of going blind should be enough to kill any urges. You can only do it once though.
     
  11. bigboibez

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    This is the opposite experience for me in the gym... I always push myself to the limit. the main thing that helps me do that is music. if u get the right song on loud it really gives u an extra boost that I cant describe. its like a drug. you gotta have the right music. that being said I love the gym and I've been resting a joint sprain for the past month and I miss it so much lol. if you don't naturally enjoy it maybe change to a sport or something you enjoy more
     
  12. Hikerboi780

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    Hmm... Maybe you are right... I do love to hike hence my profile pic, but I am not going to be able to do that much anymore plus it never works the upper-body. Do you have any suggestions?
     
  13. Can anyone ever quit PMO? Why do we talk like we can and then never do? Is it possible we need to get better? Maybe I've just never met someone that I believe was a porn addict and then was healed for good.
     
  14. bigboibez

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    well if you want to properly build an upper body you will have to go to the gym. I think if you get a good playlist and hit it consistently (and eat LOADS) you'll see enough progress in a few months that will get you addicted.
     
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  15. ThunderWings386

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  16. There's plenty of ways. Here are mine.

    Before starting, understand that urges are not something to despise. You're human and they remind you that you're alive and beating your war drums against something you know won't benefit you by continuing to partake in it. But just to ensure you don't give in...

    Place some blockers on your computer, phone, and whatever else you use to look at porn with. I use Google Chrome and I use AdBlock and Block Site. AdBlock will block pornographic ads in certain websites and with Block Site, type in the address of every porn site you know into it and then just make a mental note of never turning it off. With your phone, assuming you use IOS, block all pornographic sites and potential search options using Screen Time. Set a passcode you won't remember or better yet, have somebody else do it. If there are no other people available, still set the passcode, but keep in mind that if you use IOS and you want to transfer your data to a new phone, you'll need that code.

    Blockers help, but they're not the ultimate means of ensuring you won't give in to your urges. If somebody wants to watch porn, they're going to find a way. That's just our reality now. However, we can use ways to soothe your mind as you're fighting through an urge. Another strategy is to completely shut down your computer and your phone, then place your phone into somewhere it's out of sight (a drawer, for example) and then leave the room. Do something that engages you. Work out. Play an instrument. Talk to your family and/or friends. Watch a movie (preferably not R rated if you're going through an urge). Complete a chore. Anything of the sort.

    Taking a cold shower will help shock your mind as well. Obviously when you're aroused, you're pretty warm, so feeling a sharp cold will combat it.
     
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