PLS REPLY....thanks

How do i not look particularly weird when i get hands on with a female but dont get naked or at least not stick it in...alot of time i say i just have to pleasure her and she would forget about it but some of them grab on you and you can just tell what she wants, i also figured well i could just tell her what i wanna do to her and if she agrees then so be it but has anyone had a partner that lets say keeps coming back for more DESPITE the fact that they arent in a relationship with them. i just think it would be awkward to have to turn down EVERY encounter bcos of PMO, i know semen retention teaches us the value of ourselves and knowing who to be around and who not to waste energy with but how about when there is someone who you actually deem as worth it