Pls save me from my extreme porn guy

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by विशुद्ध ब्रह्मचारी, Jan 30, 2019.

  1. Porn is killing me physically, mentally and emotionally. I have tried so many ways and reached up to 53 days than unable to get up. Many guilt, shame and negative thoughts are coming after me. Sometimes i feel like i am not born to this shitty world. It has crossed limit. Can't help myself. Unable to stay from watching porn. Pls god the ultimate saviour, save me or i might loose myself...
    Just cryinggggg....
     
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  2. Retentionman

    Retentionman Fapstronaut

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    Man up and do it! You can't change because you don't want to. Focus on your goal, commit fully every day and go to bed clean and proud of yourself
     
  3. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    Yeah, I gotta say that in this case, you just need to use some good ol' fashioned willpower, man. Here is a list of tools and resources to help you:


    - Go to weekly SA meetings and find a sponsor there. To find one near you, go to https://www.sa.org/meetings/

    - Do an internet search for CSAT office in your area (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist)

    - Find an accountability partner if you don't already have one. Many are available here on NoFap.

    - Look for help online; There are sexual addiction recovery books, workbooks, self-help books, Youtube videos and MANY other things to help.

    - Start a journal about your recovery. On NoFap, somewhere else online, in a word document offline, or even with pen and paper.

    - Obtain a copy of the book used by the members of SA meetings, which is commonly referred to as “the white book” which can be purchased here: https://www.sa.org/store/product_info.php?products_id=32

    - Put safeguards in place to help you stay sober. Think of your weaknesses and eliminate them.

    - Do you take your phone (or any other device) into the bathroom with you and relapse because of it? Then make a rule to never take any electronic device into the bathroom with you, ever. NO EXCEPTIONS.

    - Do you read erotic literature and relapse because of it? Make a rule to never read anything that could ever be found in that section of any bookstore ever.

    - If you struggle with looking at internet porn or any other addictive material on the internet, get an internet filter to block that category type of website as well as any specific site you know you’re vulnerable to and give someone else the password to it. (Spouse, partner, AP, sponsor, etc.) Obviously, you should not have the password.



    I wish you the best of luck!
     
  4. HaydenK95

    HaydenK95 Fapstronaut

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    Do not be wise by your own eyes, fear the lord and turn away from evil.
     
  5. How can i be in touch with that. I'm from abroad. Is is chargreable or free of cost, since i'm a student and strggling to settle in my life. How can i affod that.

    Regarding relapse causes-
    -Being alone, introvert, shy, stress, depression and failure in my exams.

    - Earlier i was supposed to read erotic literatrure but now i don't read that.
    - Boredom too causes me to relapse sometimes

    - Sometimes in search of happiness and peace or relief from stress i do PMOing.

    - Yaa, sometimes i go to bathroom carriyng mobile. But now i lessen it means neglesible.

    What types of books or videos are talking about. I read "Breaking The Cycle". It immensly helped me to reach upto 53 days than.
    - You i just want an escape from reality like have no gf, no body cares, no love for me. Earlier i was good at my academic, gragarious, loving, loyal people enjoy my comapany but not no one wants to bee in touch with myself. Sometimes i feel my parents too become irritate from myself. That sucks me lead to fall in hell.

    Any way, remarkable thoughts. I appreciate it.
    Thanks for your kind supoort
     
  6. Yaa, only this might be the way to avoid PMOing. Eye deceives many times. But not God. I've deep faith in god. I surrendetd myself to god.
    Thank you
     
  7. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    For videos, just search Youtube.com (or Google for that matter!) for fighting porn addiction.

    Here's a page on Youtube with an ENORMOUS amount of videos on fighting porn. Many of them are for spouses of porn addicts, but many will apply to you as well.
    https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeneINV1yWUhjo1xCjz099Q/videos

    I totally get the desire to escape from reality. That's actually why most people with a porn addiction (if not ALL of us) have the addiction in the first place, or at least in part. But you need to find a way that doesn't hurt anyone, including you. That could be exercising, getting a hobby, lifting weights, talking to a friend, playing a game, or whatever. Just make sure it doesn't hurt anyone and stick with it!

    Also, it sounds like you have a faith in God. So my best advice to you would be to go to your church, or find one if you're not currently active in one, and get involved there with people who can encourage you in the Lord, pray with you, encourage you, and help you better yourself!


    I wish you the best of luck, my friend!!
     
  8. Thanks gr8 friend.
    Love your support.
    Wish you too a happy life
     
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  9. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    You got to keep trying! Don't give up! You got this!
     
  10. I won't this time.
    Thanks for the concern
     
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  11. HaydenK95

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    I want you to know that just because you look at porn, God does not love you any less or more than he did yesterday. Although it saddens him, he still loves you and me more than we could ever imagine. I've looked at porn probably ever since I was in 6th grade. I never saw it as a problem until a few years back where it was all I was doing and then I had to seek help. I still struggle with it, but I've gotten better about fleeing it. I believe it's Peter or Paul that tells us to flee all sexual immorality. If you're sitting there with your computer open and contemplating on looking up a porn website, you are fighting it and that will never work. We much FLEE! Literally sometimes I would close my computer or even get in my car and go for a run downtown. Do whatever it takes to FLEE the sexual immorality in your life.
     
  12. God loves those who love themselves...

    Yaa, i know i commited mistakes some of them might be blunder. It might be willingly or accidently but i'm not gonna reninquish until i became freee from this slavery. I won't stop trying harder. Bad habbits recalls me to see back but i have chosen to be free.

    I do not seat before lappy, yep my phone sometimes bothers me but will try to my mind on my study rather on distraction.

    Thanks for adding your time
     
  13. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    Wait, who is your "Extreme porn guy"? A pornography dealer?
     
  14. Habbapop

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    12 step meetings for sex / porn addiction is all over the world.
     
  15. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    So, I think a good question to ask here would be what are you doing to get accountability.
     
  16. This is inside me my man!! But doing better in my life
     
  17. I've listened about it so many times from do many. Could you elaborate more about it. Will go for it
     
  18. Are you talking about accountability partner perhaps. We did well altogather in between 2 months ago but after a setback, he is struggling too much to get up again now experimenting with different stretegy.
    Thaks for adding your points
     
  19. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut


    Accountability in any sense really is what I think you should be looking for. If you were working with someone and that's not working out, then you should definitely be looking for another AP. (And just so you know, there's no law that says you can't have more than one AP too!)

    I have a therapist I talk to, a sponsor from my weekly SA meetings I go to, and I talk with some of the other guys who go to the meetings. So I definitely believe in more than one avenue of accountability. The more "insurance" you have with this, the better off you'll be.
     
  20. Benny Oakley

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    So you went 53 days without porn and after that you couldn’t get it up?
     

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