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PMO -FREE 2021 YEAR ! 365 DAYS WITHOUT PMO IN 2021

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by control your life, Dec 30, 2020.

  1. Shadow™輝ツ

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  2. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    welcome friend :) lets do our best :)
    check in sunday
     
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  3. pangolin_21

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    Thanks guys!
    I believe I have a long year before me with a lot of meaningful activites and with many many pmo-free days.

    It's good to check in here. It helps.
    Although the day isn't quite over yet, I think I can report a porn-free day now.
    My result 3 [-2] doesn't look good, but it will in a month :)
     
  4. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    yess , thats the spirit ! dont look back , lets be the best versions of ourself !
     
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  5. Daily Check-in
    Overall a good day. Learnt some financial tips today via one of the YouTube channel I came across and started investing in a pension plan too.
    Talked to family members and couple of friend on phone. Prepared my meals and enjoyed it.
    Cooking on your own really saves money and you get to choose the ingredients to put. It is an activity that keeps the mind busy as well.

    I said No to my friend's invitation for drinks, in the late evening today. I made a right decision by saying No to him. Drinking and smoking are no good as well. Instead we would meet some other day.

    Stay strong brothers!
     
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  6. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    yah , i agree ! becouse of 2 beers i made wrong decisions after long streak and i fail , first "innocently " , then properly!
    we should forget about alcohol if we want to be successful in this!
    check in monday
     
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  7. pangolin_21

    pangolin_21 Fapstronaut

    Checking in.
    Report:
    Yesterday someone showed me a nude calendar which was a trigger. Today I was triggered only by my mind, which was as dangerous. I noticed that the trigger can be insignificant and short as the flashing up of a vague porn picture before my inner eye, but my immediate reaction is that I wish to act out (now or later). I think this is called emotional relapse. But I also noticed that it goes away as quickly as it came. So when I stay calm and let the thought go the urges vanish and after maybe half an hour I have already forgotten the "need".

    But to be honest, often I can't let it go and then the urge lives on. Even thinking and writing about it can bring the urge back.
    What's important is that I don't give the urge more food. It needs to be starved. When it is there I need to stay calm and in control. And of course I mustn't follow these thoughts that want to lead me into acting out. I can't trust myself, I can't trust my own thoughts. The good thing is though, that it's clear which are the wrong thoughts.

    Real commitment means to commit to do the right thing (or at least NOT the bad thing) no matter what. Quitting pmo is only the first step ...
     
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  8. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    yah , often we say to ourself - this was relapse ( even if it wasnt , and we go again and again and again at it becouse we think we already tilt the cup ) ,b ut its only our mind tricks to misstep ! thats why log calendar is much more important than a day counter for guys like me :(
     
  9. Good job resisting the urge!

    I totally relate to it. I was fantasizing about a girl and all that stuffs today. I had to stop and focus on my breathing really to calm the arousal and trigger, and not get lost in the rabbit hole of one thing leading to other and ultimately leading to relapse.
     
  10. Whenever I entertain the arousing and triggering thoughts I notice that the precum gets released. And this definitely annoys and in a way builds up the need further...to act and eventually ejaculate.

    I find it better and less risky to go hard mode, not even entertaining the thoughts at first place, if possible.
     
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  11. Happy to check-in 5th clean day.
    Work-wise it was okay. I was supposed to finish a couple of tasks in the last week but it has been dragged to this week. And because of other activities, I could not finish these two tasks and can only finish tomorrow. Procrastination is as dangerous as PMO sometimes I feel. It is holding me back from getting more out of the day.
    Today morning, I jogged for a mile today, and walked for 40 minutes or so. It felt good to jog after a week. I invested an equivalent of $3.50 today, in the share market (buying 20 plus shares). I want to learn how to invest by starting with small amount. Let's see how it goes.
     
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  12. Changeforthebest

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    Something happened and I feel like I let myself down. My ex asked to visit me so I took her to my bedroom, I wasn’t suppose to initiate sex with her but I did, while having sex and asked me to pull out for reasons best known to her. I asked if she was sure about this, and she said yes so I pulled out (old me would have begged for the pussy cos I haven’t ejaculated yet). Right now, I feel like not having sex with her anymore not cos I’m upset at what she did but because I’m not suppose to be all over you. You’re my ex. I don’t wanna initiate sex with women anymore till I’m married. I believe with that I can be able to control this urges, see every temptation and not fall into them.


    I was able to go more than 90 days without PMO last year and I stopped initiating sex with women who can to my house, bro u should see how this girls kept coming. Each one of them undressed me themselves, I felt loved and that helped my sexual performance. But I later fapped Dec 29th 2020, I didn’t really feel bad about it because I edged for an hour and I knew I wasn’t gonna do it again. I did that cos I found porn on my Twitter. Took me days before I fapped tho even after seeing the P vid on Twitter (don’t worry I already deleted the app). I guess that was why I was all over my ex. I couldn’t really control myself.



    I didn’t call this girl for 8 months bro, like I moved on even when I saw her sometime after 8 months, I just looked at her normal. I didn’t wish we could have Sex right now. I was strong, I was mindful all thanks to Nofap.



    She’s scared of me I know, I sense it.

    Twizza is back now.

    I really don’t know my goals yet but for now, I wanna be mindful when looking at a girls body (like looking and wanting all cos I wanna orgasm, I don’t want that). I want to be able to converse without getting hard again. I had that power last year. I lost it man. I was able to stay weeks with a girl, playing and sleeping together without getting hard (I get hard in the morning tho). She’d be all over man and when I say all over me, I mean she’ll go extreme to seduce me, that doesn’t work then she’ll come straight with kisses and touches, I kiss back and all before she undresses me, if she doesn’t undress me no matter how long I’m not interested and trust me I’m not thinking about it, man I was patience and mindful last year cos I wanted to make my life better. 2020 was a year I didn’t think of Sex. I was in control of my urges man. I mean I play with girls who are interested in me or I’m interested in and also we have good good conversation even when we both naked lol.


    I feel like I’ve Typed too much.

    I really wanna get back to not think about sex with every woman. I did that last year, I can do that again.



    DAY 0 no PMO

    How long can I do this for? Right now I don’t want any distraction and when I say distraction I mean even sex I don’t need to be having sexual thoughts and wanting to have sex. I need to allow them flow even if it’s gonna take 12 hours.
     
  13. My clock has ended today. Sad to reset for that momentary pleasure and mindless escalation from reddit images to relapse. :(
     
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  14. Ojo1123

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    Hey so I've been doing no P since the start of the year. Can i join or is this for quitting PMO only? thanks
     
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  15. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    i can include you , but i will say in the list no P only
     
  16. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

  17. Congrats on hitting double digit. Keep it up @control your life !
     
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  18. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    thanks friend ! so far is easy as no urges , but i hope they wouldnt hit me soon ! im a bit worried, as i fail recently
     
  19. Don't worry, just identify the cues which triggers you to act... respond to those cues in a different manner. Saying is always easy, but in that moment, dealing with it requires will power and judgement.
    Stay vigilant and most importantly stay occupied in other productive activities. More strength to you!
     
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