PMO has lost me my GF.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by anewversion, Apr 3, 2019.

  1. anewversion

    anewversion Fapstronaut

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    Well.... I think PMO and my fetishes have caused me to lose the closest I've ever got to a true gf.

    We dated for a few years. I've been in love with her since we first met. Apparently I never made any moves which gave her the idea I wasn't interested sexually and only just friends.

    I've told her I didn't make a move out of fear of losing her. I thought if making a move if things didn't go well I would lose her forever. so I did nothing and played it safe and nice. And now it seems I've lost her anyway.

    I think this is true. But I also think that PMO didn't help. It takes away your need for physical engagement and satisfied me with only the fantasy online world.

    I'm sure it played a part.

    :(

    Sad times.
     
    Last edited: Apr 3, 2019
  2. What happened? Didn't go well in bed? I lost two girls because of pmo. I know that feel.
     
  3. anewversion

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    If you read my post. I just never tried anything. Out of fear of messing it up.
     
  4. Now i read lol, before your post wasn't that big. But anyway, yeah man if you didnt make a move because you thought you would fucked up maybe not only pmo but low self-esteem. I've been there. Do your reboot, if you think its too bad just do a hard mode, explain to her the problem dude, nothing is better than someone u love supporting u, if she loves u she will understand. Do a good hard mode reboot in 30 days i believe you will be feeling better.
     
  5. anewversion

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    30 days hard mode? o_O

    I can barely make it to a week.
     
  6. The thing is... you gotta do it, or nobody you will that for you, there is no secret formula. It is about your happiness right?! Do that but live one day at a time. Focus on one week first, then focus on doing more. Small victories every day bro.
     
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  7. anewversion

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    Is it even doable? I mean isn't the reason why we fall back on MO because it's 'normal'? A biological function so to speak?

    I need a plan. Because at the moment everything feels like it's in ruins.
     
  8. Hei bro a lot of plan already laid out on this forum. Hope you find one that suitable for yours.

    I dont even think that I can survive until day 18th. But here I am. My pray for you bro!
     
  9. TheMaster101

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    You put too much emphasis on the self induced orgasm, it's overrated really. Have you ever beat any other type of addiction?
    I have quit smoking almost 4 years ago now and the way i did it was with vaping.. every time i had a craving i just grabbed the vape mod, took a few hits and it settled my nerves. i rarely use the vape mod now either..
    I understand that a substitute for jerking off doesn't involve grabbing a dildo. But you need some sort of substitute.
    You have to have a plan for this to work.. What worked (and still works) for me is just every time i get a trigger i start asking myself questions.. What's the point in doing it? What do i gain from getting a self induced orgasm?
    And the answer is nothing.. a 5 second brain freeze.. a worthless 5 second brain freeze.
    What do you lose from it? Self worth for starters.. Do it on a daily basis and your testosterone levels will drop because of the lack of zinc in your body.. There are enough sources that go into detail about this.
    Don't believe the bullshit that says masturbation is ok.. i'm sure for females it's fine. not so much for men.
     
  10. It's because excessive pmo kills your animalistic(beast) urges which women especially young chicks primarily looking for. The truth is women only search for 2 things in us. The beast in you for domination and a fat wallet. If you have one only they going to get it elsewhere.
     
  11. TheMaster101

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    You pretty much nailed it..
     
  12. anewversion

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    Thanks guys.

    I've been away for two week holiday, but started PMO about a week in to the holiday and since I've been back (3 days) I've gone on a binge.

    NEED TO STOP.

    But how many times have I/we said that before?
     

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